...because that's what this generation does now....

[JaneB1000]

My 13 yo daughter wants to go around to a boys house alone (tho apparently they are not going out?!?). I am not keen but apparently I am the only parent who is like this - all her friends go around their boyfriend's houses. I said why not go to the cinema, meet in town, hang out etc. but apparently that's not what they do these days, they go straight to their houses.I know it comes down to trust but she went around his house whilst saying she was going to a friends house. I just wonder what everyone else does/would do....

My 14yo DD goes to her BF house only if there's someone else home. Same if he comes here, I have to be home.

When I was 13 (well from about the age of 7-18 actually) my best friend was a boy and we would go round to each other's houses, often unsupervised once we were teens. We genuinely did nothing- we were very nerdy so usually did our homework together and then watched a film or played computer games. I guess it comes down to whether you trust your DD to be sensible about it.

I went to boys houses after school when they werent boyfriends and we just hung out and listened to music, I also went to my boyfriends house and he came to mine. The boyfriend was older than me though.

I came from a ‘nice’ family, was well behaved and am 37. My parents trusted me.

Maybe suggest he comes to your house first so you can get comfortable?

I'd rather my 13 year old was at a friends house then out in the evenings.

Yes I wouldn't be keen for her to be hanging around out in the evening more weekend afternoons. He seems very keen on her and I know she likes him. I had heard that his previous girlfriend finished with him over inappropriate images but this came from the ex herself so might be sour grapes. At the moment, sadly, I am finding it difficult to trust her as she has been dishonest about a few things.....

Tbf, they're probably just sitting there in silence looking at their phones!

I went to my BFs house at that age. I don’t remember my parents checking whether or not his parents were home(sometimes they were sometimes they weren’t)

We never got beyond sitting awkwardly on his bed snogging

But you know your daughter best- do you trust her or not?

She’s a 13yr old child, I don’t think it’s appropriate for her to go over to this boys house alone. Invite him over for tea, or take them out together for a pizza or something so you can get to know him and see what the dynamic is between them.