Is this wrong?

[Bumblebum2018]

I am a single parent with a bit of 9 years old. About 3 nights a week max, he sleeps in my bed. We do this as he is a single child and I am a lonely parent and feel it’s nice for each other. We chat and tell stories b4 bed and this makes him happy. I’ve had someone keep feeling me this is very wrong and that I’m bringing up my son in the wrong way. I know it can’t carry on as he gets older but I feel from this person that I’m doing it all wrong and it’s going to make him soft and a mummies boy- as this person calls it. Really need some advice as I’m very upset about it all. 😞

No you are not wrong
No you are not bringing up your son in the wrong way
No you won't make him soft or a mummy's boy.

What a very unpleasant person to tell you such nonsense!

Ignore them OP. You sound like a lovely, caring mum to me. There will come a time when he'll want his own bed but until then, just enjoy the company!

He will tell you when he doesn't want to it anymore, I suspect that you have a year or so left so treasure every moment and start building a life for you because he is going to grow up sometime.

No of course its not wrong, it lovely and will only do him good, he can sleep in his own bed because he does it all the other nights and thats all that matters. I am not a single parent but DH is away wednesdays and sometimes thurdsday nights and I always end up with all my kids in with me.

My DS is 7 next month and still climbs into our bed! OH usually ends up in DS’s bed as there’s no room for us all lol.

My OH’s younger brother slept in his Mums bed until he was 10 and gone. No long term effects. He’s now a typical 20 year old and has been living independently in another part of the country for about a year!

Don’t let anyone tell you how to parent your child. 😀

No of course you aren't wrong. I get these "mummy's boy" comments about co-sleeping with my son and he is only 9 months! Does my head in. You sound like a lovely mum, just keep doing what you're doing.

My DS used to love cuddling in bed. He’s a teen now and I barely ever get near him, it’s very much on his terms. Enjoy it while you can and nod and smile at the vicious person who is undermining you, then do what the hell you like

You are not wrong at all, you sound like a lovely caring parent. Your DS will eventually decide he doesn’t want to do it anymore - I would just enjoy the close bond you have and ignore the other persons comments

Ignore and carry on. It's lovely and he'll let you know when he doesn't want to anymore.

And I love snuggles in bed with my 6.5 yr old ds and hope it doesn't end too soon!

Well it’s not like he can’t sleep alone so I don’t see the problem.

No it's not wrong and you sound if you have a lovely relationship with your child. Ignore this idiot and carry on!

Wow you’ve all bought tears to my eyes! Thank you so much. I’ve been so worried. This person isn’t even a parent themselves! ❤️

I think you sound like a lovely Mom! When my DH works away, my two DS (aged 9 and 6) take it in turns to sleep in my bed and I love it! Watching them sleep and having morning cuddles! It wont last forever

KatnissK
I get these "mummy's boy" comments about co-sleeping with my son and he is only 9 months!

A 9 month old mummy's boy!? Some people huh.

I have a sleepover every week with ds 6.5, when dh is away. I love it. I will carry on for as long as he is happy to do it. I also have many friends who regularly share a bed with their children.

My baby is 4 weeks old and we are co sleeping (DH in spare room so he can sleep for work!)

I know 4 weeks and 9 yrs old is very different but I still think there is tremendous bonding in co sleeping and I don’t think it’s wrong.

It’s hard to have a good relationship with a son as a single mother, this sounds like a good way to be close and form a protective unit.

He will be too old soon - treasure it while you can!

What a load of bollocks. Do it until one of you wants to stop.

Aaahhh my kids often still come to bed with me and/or husband and they're 5 and 9 - I'll miss it when they don't - yet sleep badly when they do lol
No ... you're a loving mummy that's all

I used to sleep in my mum's bed while my dad was working away when I was about 15/16. I don't think it matters!