Annoyed at myself!

[Nicolah1]

I'm annoyed at myself that I don't go with my own instincts. Long story short, baby boy has a bit of constipation, and given a softener by docs. He had a dirty happy earlier that still wasn't 100% as liquid as usual (breastfed Baby). Before bed, I asked my partner if we should give him another dose of the medicine, and he said no he should be ok as he's been to the loo. But from midnight to 3am Baby has been unsettled and when he cried at 3am, sounded like he was straining. Partner commented on this, and I said yes because he needed his medicine!!!! I was angry at gun, but so annoyed at myself as I was going to give him the medicine, but didn't listen to my own motherly instinct. This has happened a few times where I've asked partner for advice, it hasn't worked out and I should have done what I was going to do in the first place!! Wish I had more confidence to trust in myself.

Don't beat yourself up! I've found that the majority parenthood is purely winging it! I often second guess myself or listen to somebody else and get it wrong, but that's not to say I always get it right either.

Is it worth giving the medicine now?

Keep your chin up!

Yes I gave it to him, hopefully start working too. Annoyed as well that I tried a earlier bedtime for him (as he's a terrible sleeper!) and he slept well. I had a bath, chilled out and went to bed at 10:30 (very late for me as I usually go to bed at 7:30 with Baby as he wakes so much in the night). By then he woke at 11, so I got half hour sleep. And since then he keeps waking every half hour, or 5 mins after I've put him down. Now 4:30 and I haven't slept at all!!! Whilst partner is asleep next to me

I feel your pain! My DP is asleep in the spare room while I'm awake listening to my little one grunt (fast asleep, but I'm not!!).

Fingers crossed it works soon. It's trial and error though and atleast you know now to try something different tomorrow!

Also, I'd stick with the 7:30 bedtime. If he ends up sleeping longer that's just a bonus for you!

Just thought it would be nice to actually have a evening to myself. Wish I'd have got those 4 hrs in!!!!!

I used to do this ALL THE TIME when DD was a newborn - ask DH what he thought as I didn't trust my opinion on things as a first-time Mum, and then berate myself for not following my gut. It was a total waste of energy and you will start going with the flow more once you've settled into the role. I still feel like I don't know what I'm doing but most of the time whatever issue it is has been forgotten by the next day so it really doesn't matter and we're on to the next. We are all just doing our best and that's all that counts!