I can’t cope and just want everything to go away 😞

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I’m mother of 2 boys, 11 and 6 and a girl who is 8. Things have been hard for a while but I’ve now hit breaking point and don’t know what to do. I’ve been sick since November which often means Im vomiting throughout the day and can’t work. As well as me being sick my daughter has sever health problems and has been in and out of hospital since she was 2.

It all came to a head last weeks. My boys behaviour is horrendous and I really can’t cope. I get calls several times a week from school about my youngest’s behaviour and my eldest goes out of his way to wind his brother and sister up. He NEVER listens and is causing many family problems, he has definitely got worse since I be been sick.

I always thought my husband was the one for me but to be honest he is not helping. A couple of years ago I found a message on his phone that he had sent to my best friend saying she was beautiful and kisses. This was sent just after I had a miscarriage after a lot of thinking I decided to try and make things work. My friendship is over as I was always too embarrassed to confront her about not telling me. A couole of weeeks ago I went to use his phone and he had googled women (the same type of woman as my ex friend) and I’m finding it really hard to deal with. I’m don’t want to leave our 16yr relationship but I don’t know if I can get over this. I’m taken my wedding ring off as my husband hasn’t worn anything be for 5 yrs as he lost it! And I just didn’t not know how to make him realise what he has done.

I really don’t know what to do, I’m so confused. It’s mother’s day and I’m sitting in my room crying while my whole family are downstairs sharing their beautiful mother’s day stories while all I have done is 2 dishwasher loads, 2 loads of washing and tidying as the boys have destroyed my home. Not even a cup of tea!

I’m really sorry about the rant and I know no one can tell me what to do do or how to fix things I just really needed to vent.

Thanks

Sorry to hear things are so bad OP. It sounds like a straw that broke the camels back situation.

I'm not sure I have any useful advice but I didn't want your post to go unanswered. It's shit that no-one has made sure you had a nice mother's day. Your DH should have made sure this happened. Have you spoken to him about what you saw on his phone? How is the relationship otherwise? As for your sons' behaviour... do you have any thoughts about the reasons behind it? You say it has worsened since your illness? I think you should focus on getting well in the first instance. Then think about how you would like things to be in your home and family, and what needs to change to make that happen. Clearly something is not working at the moment. Probably as a first course of action, I would talk to your DH, and tell him you need some support. I hope things get better soon.

I didn't want to read and not respond, but I think you could do with some relationship advice, you'd be better starting a thread in the relationship board for that.

Have you seen a doctor about the sickness? Are you getting help with that?

It sounds all pretty intense, and rubbish that everyone has left you to do all the work.