Worried DD is turning into a spoilt bratlike child!

[McDreamy]

This is new for us. DD has always been a very sweet little girl. Terrible 2's passed her by, a couple of tantrums at 3 but nothing major but she turned 4 in Feb and has increasingly developed attitude!

Answering back with cheeky comments, huffing, refusing to do things, talking through gritted teeth ...you know the sort of thing.

Just not sure how to handle it, find myself getting increasingly frustrated with her but I don't want to show this frustration for fear it will increase her behaviour (IYSWIM)

I just don't want to become a little madam!

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ohhhhh yes

this is what they do, basically

sorry

i also think that it MIGHT be the previously best behaved ones who get it worst

sorry

its a PITA, loads of my friends kids who previously were angels (and they rather smug ) have been through this

well put your foot down then
ansewring back is not on

Thanks for that Peter , very useful! I'll try it.

well i mean jsut dont accpet it
if she huffs send her to her room

Sending her to her room won't achieve anything, she'll just play.

You need to introduce the word respect.

OK - go on LGJ

so
shell soon get bored
i odnt hink you can giev up at the age of 4
send herto her room wiht a fela in her ear
do you REALLY need ot be told how to do it?

We bought DS a book on Respect for this very reason.

Will BRB will see if I can find it.

oh you ol hippy lgj

It's not a question of being told how to do it, I'm after advice from people that may have experienced similar in their children. She won't get bored in her room, she be happy for ages!

wellt here oyu are
shellget out of your hair
if you shout at her/raise oyur voice and tell her off thne she will realisse its not ok

mmm thanks

My dd has tried this too having previously been an agel.

Basically I'd suggest totally consistent rules and repurcussions. If she does "strop" at you for something, explain that it is her choice to do that but the result is she spends 4 minutes on the stairs/in her room or whatever and do this every time she behaves that way.

Don't get angry and shout about it, be totally calm just make it clear you don't like that behaviour and the result of that behaviour is time away from you/no tv/no pudding etc whichever you decide.

Consistency is the key, and remaining calm and in a couple of days she'll realise she gets more attention for being nice girl than stroppy girl and will behave accordingly (most of the time )

that's an angel not an agel

Tell her (firmly) you expect to be spoken to properly and if she doesn't, then don't react in any way. Don't answer her, don't give her the benefit of rewarding her with your attention. She'll get the message, eventually.

Dreamy

Can you CAT me ?

I can lend you this book and others.

My dd was also 4 in feb and we have just had a real testing time of the same sort of behaviour you describe. When gently told off by her nana she retorted "I hate you, you are a rubbish nana!" . Nana was shocked and a bit hurt. We had been putting up with it a bit at home but once I realised she was speaking like that elsewhere I was mortified!! We then really clamped down and kept telling her that that sort of behaviour was totally unacceptable and made her keep saying sorry and sending her to her room etc(she has a playroom so not many toys in bedroom). Try using a naughty chair/room with no toys etc if you don't want to use her bedroom. My dd also wasn't much trouble as a toddler, so I think they are testing the boundaries a bit later instead, in a slightly more sophisticated way.
I worried about her being a spoilt brat too, but she very quickly has changed back to being sweet again now she knows the boundaries! Good luck.

Thanks very much this all sounds like great advice. I will try it. LGJ I will CAT you once I find out how !!!

LGJ I have CAT you!

MCD

This being a long weekend, it could be Tuesday before I get it.

I am also off to Ireland sometime this week for a funeral. Not sure when as my SIL's DM has been given days to live.

really sorry! No problem, when you can will be just fine. Thanks for your help

Received your CAT have replied.