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Arguing over rest and feeding. aibu?

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Sunnysideup1122 · 07/03/2018 23:21

Hi all
I’ve just come upstairs after falling out with partner over feeding arrangements. It was 10pm and I mentioned I wanted to go to bed for rest and will feed baby when he’s due around 11.30-midnight. My partner thinks I should stay up till baby is fed. Aibu for wanting to squeeze an hour or so in before feeding?
Already sleep deprived and have a 3 year old to entertain in the day.
Thank you in advance for your responses

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Pennywhistle · 08/03/2018 02:20

Erm, I have to ask why he thinks it’s anything to do with him when you go to bed?

When my twins were little I used to go to bed at 9pm and fit in 3 hours sleep before they woke at 12am for their next feed.

Sometimes it was the only 3 hours I got at all.

Bobbiepin · 08/03/2018 02:22

Get all the sleep you can!

VimFuego101 · 08/03/2018 02:37

Absolutely none of his business. I assume you're BF so he couldn't help with the midnight feed?

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TheButterflyOfTheStorms · 08/03/2018 03:02

My partner thinks I should stay up till baby is fed.

Why?

PastaOfMuppets · 08/03/2018 04:09

Why does he want you to stay up? Does he want you to do the cleaning too?

userabcname · 08/03/2018 06:08

Yanbu. Sleep when you can. What was reasoning for you staying awake? Sounds like a fairly stupid idea to me.

Rewn7 · 08/03/2018 06:27

DH used to get home from work at 6pm. Then I’d go to bed from 7-11pm to get what was sometimes my only sleep that day. It’s how we survived while DD was little and a hideous sleeper.

DH had no say in wether I did this or not.
Your partner sounds controlling.

YouBetterWORK · 08/03/2018 07:01

My DH actively encouraged me to get to bed for NINE last night to get a couple of hours in before baby feed around midnight. And that's without a 3 year old to look after.

Your partner is an asshole. As a fellow sleep deprived, you can tell him that from me. Ass. Hole.

KimmySchmidt1 · 08/03/2018 10:15

What the hell has it got to do with him whether and when you nap?!?!?!?

You need to set some boundaries.

geekymommy · 08/03/2018 18:09

Why? Why does he even feel like he should get a vote on this?

QueenOlives · 08/03/2018 18:16

Get all sleep possible.

Mine sent me to bed at 9 when I had newborn and promptly went online and conducted emotional affairs.dick. He's my exH now !

Chienrouge · 08/03/2018 18:20

When mine were babies I used to go to bed at 7pm sometimes to get some sleep.
Why does he think he has a say in when you go to bed?

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Sunnysideup1122 · 08/03/2018 21:47

Hi all. Thank you for your reply’s.

I’m glad i wasn’t being unreasonable. I’m combining bf and formula so it’s not just me feeding. We’ve had a discussion on the feeding and I have put my foot Down as I’m not being told when I can sleep!

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Pennywhistle · 08/03/2018 23:14

I’m presuming that he’s missing you a bit which is fair enough and something to be careful of but sometimes you just need your sleep.

user1493413286 · 09/03/2018 07:34

In the early sleep deprived days I often used to go to bed when my DP got home and get a couple of hours sleep before the next feed; it’s your decision what you do.

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