Would you let your child go on holiday with another family?

[Lovemybabies18]

Dd is 14 and has been invited to go on holiday with her best friend and her family for a week in lanzarote in the summer, me and her friends mum have been friends for 10 years - they went to primary school together and I have total faith and trust that her and her husband will look after her like she is there own but I’m just not sure. Me and dh took dd’s friend away with us last year but it was camping and in England. I’m sort of on the verge of saying yes but dh isn’t so keen?

I'd say yes I went away with my friend at a similar age and loved it

I have taken my DS friend to the USA and will do the same this summer with 14 year old DS mate.

They have been amazing experiences for all concerned. We loved having them with us ...
I think it is essential to really trust the parents and talk through different scenarios.

Yes, I went on holiday as a child with my best friend & her family. I was 7.

And when DD2 was 10 she went to Spain with her friend and friend’s parents.

In the situation you have described - known parents, long friendship, 14, have been away together before - absolutely! Your DD will have a great time.

When we took ds 14's friend on holiday we sent them home on a plane before week 1 was over.
Have a meeting to discuss expectations.

Yes DS has been on holiday with another family for the last 4 years as well as on holiday with us. He is 14.

We know the family well and he gets on very well with their DC. It works or cheap for us (we pay his direct costs), he gets another experience and their DC is happy.

Presuming that your DD is keen to go then yes, absolutely. It's with people you know well and trust and DD is old enough to start needing to spread her wings a little (whilst still supervised by responsible adults).

I'd say so, yes.

Are they mature? The kids, not the parents

Yes she is mature and I know she would behave herself but the thing Is my other dd is 11 and their ds is 10 and they get on very well and she wants to go as well (they offered I didn’t ask) they think it would be nice for ds to have some company but honestly she is a nightmare and I would never let her go out of fear for them not my dd, she has terrible behaviour and I don’t think she would behave any better for them and older dd would have to watch her all the time which isn’t fair. So should I just let the older one go or say no to both?

I would let the older one but say the other is too young at the minute. Maybe reassess when she turns 12.