Stealing

[Monkee4]

My DD had a friend for a sleepover and when friend had left my DD immediately noticed she had taken my DDs Apple earphones. Apparently hers did not work so she just took my DDs when she wasn't looking.
I got DD to text her and ask if she had taken them and she denied it but we know she did because hers were marked with an id and she had deliberately tried to remove this before she did the swap.
I am really upset for my DD not because of the money involved - although they are not cheap - but because I think it shows a complete lack of respect for DD and shows she is not a true friend. DD doesn't want to make a fuss about it because she doesn't want to lose her as a friend but I am fuming. Should I tell the mum about it?

Yes of course talk to the mother. Give her all the id info. It's awkward but you can't be a doormat

In this case I'd go for a text message:
Hi, we were just wondering if X accidentally brought dd's headphones home? We have a pair here which are not dd's (hers are marked with XYZ). If you could have a look for them, I'd appreciate it. Thanks.
The mum probably doesn't know, and a message like the one above leaves the way open for them to be returned gracefully although of course the other mum will know her dd swiped them once she looks into it.

Thanks - The trouble is the id was on the friend's headphones so those are the one's that are left with DD. The friend has now apologised to DD and said she took them accidentally and she will give them back next week.

I still feel really upset as stealing is stealing but I don't have the mum's phone no anymore. I changed my phone a while back and they had stopped seeing each other for a while as they moved schools.

What age are they? It’s very deceitful and the friends card has been marked, but all’s well that ends well and hopefully the friend has learnt a valuable life lesson.

they are both 13

Ugh. She knew exactly what she was doing didn’t she.

yes she did and it's hurtful as my daughter is really kind and sharing
but apparently the friend is very grabby (my daughter's words) and always grabbing her phone from her.
Friend comes from a good family, mum has a good job etc

Terrible manners though to do that. Good you texted and hopefully the girl will have learnt something from it

She is grabby but very polite to me... DD really likes her and is short on friends at the moment... I will keep an eye on her and if anything else happens - have a word with her Mum. I am sure her Mum would be horrified. But then you just don't know how Mum's react do you - from past experience anyway