Reflux? Growth spurt or just being a little sh*t?

[cherryontopp]

God only knows.

First baby is 12 days old.

Upto 2 days ago, he was a lovely baby. Feeding 2oz every 3.5/4 hours. Could settle him with cuddle or dummy.

Day 10, he goes from 2oz to 3oz and us cranky. Thought it was due to growth spurt.
Yesterday he fed at 3.30pm, 5.30pm, 9pm, 12.30am, 4.30am and 7.30am.

Though between feeds its taking him nearly 2 hours to settle, he wont take dummy, wont be put down. Will only sleep on my chest. He does spit up a bit, and have gurgling stomach noises and farts a lot.

Im barely functioning im so tired. I havent seen a HV yet. Dont know what it is or i can do. Any suggestions?

I think you need to have realistic expectations - sorry if that’s harsh but the title of your thread is a horrible way to describe a newborn. Google 4th trimester and purple crying. It will give you a bit of an insight into meeting your baby’s needs at the stage and understanding his behaviour.

It’s hard when babies just grizzle all the time and you’re short on sleep! But it sounds pretty normal, I would imagine reflux would have presented itself earlier if that was the issue? Babies go through lots of funny little phases and as much as it can feel like the baby is just trying to be annoying when you are super tired they just need your help and reassurance to get through it. Try to offload as many jobs onto other people, let your standards slip with regards to housework and just spend your time helping your baby through it. There’s a reason that they say motherhood is the hardest job in the world! Do you have a partner that can take over the first feed of the night so you can get a decent block of sleep? Getting a bit more kip will help you to handle it better!

Borah, i have a partner yes. But hes working. I just feel helpless when hes screaming blue murder and have tried everything.

Mrs, im not the first and last new mum that has called her child a little get/shit when theyre screaming their head off and haven't a clue why. I obviously dont mean it. Wondered when the perfect mum would comment

Relax OP, take him the GP for advice, but everything you have described sounds normal. Feed him whenever he wants. He might need smaller feeds more often. And he sounds like he has excessive wind. Gripe
water or colief will help but I think that might be from one month.
You sound a bit down and that's not surprising with a new baby, especially when we worry about them. He will grow out of it, but make sure you also look after yourself and get support around you if you can.

This is how babies are.

I certainly don't miss that stage! DS is four months now and a lot easier I think. A lot less feeding and easier to read the cues as to whether he's tired etc. And no you're definitely not the first mum to use those words- I certainly have! Such an annoying phrase but here goes - this will pass.

I didn't mean less feeding sorry, I meant a lot more time between each feed! He now goes about 4 and a half hours

Cherry would it not help even if your partner could take over the 9.30 feed? I know you say he is working, but you are too! It’s really boring but if you went to bed super early say at 7, you would hopefully bank 4-5 hrs of sleep before the midnight feed. I have had to do this in the past to function in the day without wanting to throw my baby out of the window (obviously I didn’t, but definitely felt like it from time to time!) I know it’s crap but sometimes parenthood is about survival and not all endless joy as the tv adverts would have us believe.

Sounds like it could be reflux. Try keeping your LO lead flat but with top half raised. A bouncer is good for this. Baby gavascon is good too. Take to Gp if it doesn't work. Try switching milk (I found cow and gate had so many bubbles in it made my DS windy but SMA worked perfectly). Comfort milks are good as they are thicker and stay 'down' easier. A dummy could help. Offer warm water between feeds to help with digestion.

It's horrible OP believe me I have been there but it is just a case of trial and error to find the best milk to use and get the bad tummy sorted hope you find the perfect combination soon it's horrible seeing them in pain x

Thanks for those with non patronising comments

I know its how babies are, but for him to turn purple with crying when im trying everything is worrying and frustrating. Ive been a mum for 12 days.
herishe i was thinking of trying the hungrier baby milk for the night time feed, ive heard the thicker milks can cause constipation so ill just do it for one feed for now.

Since this morning he's calmed down a bit. Ive tried swaddling him n i get 5 minutes peace at a time