Is 6 a difficult age?

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Dd1 is being frankly not that nice at the moment - lots of sulking, ridiculous strops if she doesn't get her own way, "I hate you!" etc, falling out with friends at school. Dm says "it's her age" but frankly I thought 6 would be when things got easier. Is anyone else's 6 year old playing up?

Just came on here to go Arrhhhhhhh! How can a 6yr old be SO infuriating horrid getting her to school this morning we didn’t even say goodbye at the gate she has the vocabulary of a teenager and the behaviour of a 3-4yr old at times and I’m finding it incredibly hard to keep my patience with her!
It was fine happily dancing, singing messing around in the kitchen then I had to corral for teeth, shoes, coats the usual watching time tick away.. hopefully tonight will be easier- she ended up in bed half hr earlier last night because of shouting & trying to hit at me. But we ended up calmly lying on her bed taking it in turns to read a book which she did brilliantly, she forgets her outbursts just like that!
My DH has to do both ends of the day tom as I’m off early with work will be interesting to hear his experience tom night!

We crossed posted elisor hope your day goes better - we’ve struggled with tea time too...she doesn’t “sit”..never has constant wiggle bum. I keep meaning to try out a jelly cushion for her to sit on. My nephew has asperghers and uses one at the table.

I hope today has been better for all of you! A jelly cushion might just be the answer I'm looking for skigirl - I had to take her chair away from her at the table this evening. It feels awful as dinner times used to be relatively calm in our house but she was distracting and then entirely unreasonable and unresponsive to words. I couldn't get DS(6) to eat a single thing before school this morning but I've had to just shrug it off for my own sanity.

It does feel like a flip of a switch doesn't it! For us it's all tears and tantrums (and kicking) one minute and then after they've calmed they're angelic and deciding how to allocate house chores between their siblings (not something we currently do)....

I'll join in with a Jekyll and Hyde 6yo ds. Recently he's been really difficult at home with frustration leading to tantrums, mostly around getting him to do things like get dressed, stop playing etc. Sounds like I'm not alone! Of course he's a bloody angel at school... anyone else find that?

Hello misty9 I think we were on the same thread when our lo were born (if you still have the same name) where has 6yrs gone!
I’ve ordered the rubber cushion I’ll let you know how it goes! Definitely high levels of anxiety even my DH said tonight he had noticed it, she was constantly asking where I was & what I was doing when I wasn’t in the same room as her. Bless her. I’ve made a conscious effort to reduce her screen time this week and give her other options like colouring or quiet toys and it has helped her general arrrhhh mood. I’m out tom half the day with my older DD and looking forward to a break from her tbh but she will have a fab time with DH though

After yet another couple of tough school drops off & pick ups with tantrums i went & spoke with the teacher today. But she’s a flipping angel at school doing really well & no friendship issues they are aware of!? She just saves her best full on tantrum outbursts for me I’m guessing it’s because she feels “safe” and let’s go of all the overloaded emotions which build during the day.... I’ve asked the SENCO for any advice too as this last few weeks has been particularly hard work!

HI skigirl what a coincidence! I can’t believe my youngest turns 4 soon either..
ds is exactly the same, an angel at school. He even tells us that frustration and anger are for home, not school so it’s hard to believe he has no control over his behaviour! I had some support from school but, due to my work, I know all the theory - it’s just putting it into practice and not losing my rag as much as I do. A lot of ds poor behaviour is explainable by hunger or tiredness but it seems impossible to fill him up at the moment. Growth spurt? Will that ever not be an explanation for difficult behaviour?!

Hello everyone - Just realised there were lots more posts on here! More of the same this week for us but it's nice to know we're not alone. Point blank ignoring me when I ask her to do something is the latest thing to push my buttons, but lots of loveliness too. I hope everyone's weekends are OK.

My 6 year old is a delight 99% of the time. His 3 year old sister is another matter..

Got hubbie to do the school run twice this week and what a surprise DD was delightful glad though as he had a talk with her about being kind to mummy which has helped at the moment....

Ooh and she loves the £10 wobble cushion hoping it continues to help at sitting for meals at the table!

Glad she likes it - I might have to look into one of those!

yep horrible age not wanting to be babies anymore...thinking they're as grown up as you and know it all plus a mini hormone surge... just awful..especially girls

Theyre all vile until theyre 18 and then they go to uni and become vile AND expensive

Haha - very encouraging. I wondered about a hormone surge - that's certainly what it feels like. She was totally lovely for about 3 months from Sept-Christmas but doesn't seem to have recovered from Christmas yet.