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Not looking for answers, just solidarity - velcro baby!

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Prusik · 28/02/2018 10:03

DS2 is 6 weeks old. Yesterday I managed to put him down for ten minutes without him screaming. First time in his entire life. This isn't helped by the fact that I have a 13 month old also.

Trying to stay relatively relaxed and just go with the flow but DS1 is napping and I'd love to brush my teeth and get dressed without a screaming baby.

Anyone else in the same boat?

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user1493413286 · 28/02/2018 10:13

DD was like that; everyone said how lovely it was but they didn’t think about when it was just me and her and I needed to do literally anything that involved putting her down.

53rdWay · 28/02/2018 10:17

DD was like that. Bloody exhausting. Got a lot of “enjoy the cuddles!” comments but cuddles are more enjoyable when you get to put them down sometimes!

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Prusik · 28/02/2018 10:53

This little one is a very different creature to ds1. DS1 would scream whether or not we held him (cmpa) but was also a sleepy baby. I could shower, cook, clean, be dressed. This one is more of a dictator. That being said, he is pretty easy as long as I hold him. My annoyance is that I have stuff to do while the 13 month old naps

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KimmySchmidt1 · 01/03/2018 14:47

Similar here but he’s only 6 weeks so give him a chance. I use a sling so he is happy and I can get things done x

justanotheruser18 · 01/03/2018 20:25

I don't think I could put DS down til he was 4 months old. I didn't do anything except breast feed and watch greys anatomy. You have my sympathies and know you're doing your best.

Loopyloo1987 · 01/03/2018 20:44

My little boy is nearly 7 months and is still clingy . He was glued to me when he was younger where i couldnt put him down .

Now hes better . Still loves a cuddle and is very much a mummas boy which i love but is happier to go down as long as he can c me . Still doesnt like it if he cant c me though.which makes it harder to leave him with people . Mainly just his dad and nan.

RedLemonade · 02/03/2018 19:39

I had one of these. Hated the car seat, screamed blue murder in the buggy, fine and dandy on me. She lived in a Connecta Baby carrier for the first 6 months of life and continued to nap in it till she was just shy of 1.

She’s now 18 months and resolutely independent. Still loves a cuddle but she’s a major explorer now. Sadly she likes to explore vertically (especially atop wobbly stools/tables). I blame the sling. She got a taste for heights.

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Prusik · 03/03/2018 07:43

I'm pretty much just going with the flow. If that's what he wants, that's what he gets. Equally I have to balance it out because I have to put him down to fix breakfast/lunch/dinner, dishwasher and laundry or change 13 month olds nappy. So I just hold newborn at all other times to make up for having to leave him to cry

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Prusik · 03/03/2018 07:45

@RedLemonade i feel your pain. At 13 months old, my Ds is a pretty proficient climber already!

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BuffyFan · 03/03/2018 07:45

I know you're not looking for solutions, but have you got a sling / carrier? This was a godsend with my twins as I could carry them while making a cup of tea and breakfast in the morning. Kept me sane!

Topsyloulou · 03/03/2018 08:00

DD was like this which came as a complete shock as DS wasn't like it at all. DD also wasn't a fan of daytime naps whereas DS loved a nap. I used a sling when possible so I could still get on with things round the house, play with DS etc. When we got to 10 weeks she'd let me put her down & now at 17 weeks she'll even nap in the day & lie on her playmat (as long as I'm on the floor with her!) & DS is getting some time with mummy without a baby attached.

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Prusik · 03/03/2018 09:01

I do have a wrap, he's still too small for my carrier though (0.4th percentile). I haven't used it to now because his latch isn't very efficient so he's been constantly feeding. That is starting to calm down now though so I'll have to start using the wrap more. I've already mastered carrying newborn in wrap and 13 month old on my hip with nobody getting crushed!

Does anyone else find using the sling quite awkward? I find doing things like the dishes to just be cumbersome while wearing ds and with limited time that's not ideal.

I do only do basics but with a 13 month old food dropper even the basic day to day bits take up a fair amount of time. I'm not even hoovering or anything so I'm not trying to be supermum

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TheABC · 05/03/2018 09:12

I know where you are coming from. Both mine were velcro babies and it got significantly easier when they had neck control so I could back carry them. In the meantime, could you order a standing dustpan and brush kit to take care of the food issue? And whilst it's not very environmentally friendly, no one will die eating off paper plates for midweek lunches. Actually, sod that - at 13 months mine would be delighted to eat off the highchair table. Just do what you can to avoid health hazards and keep your sanity.

If it's any consolation, when DD got a bit bigger and noticed DS, she wanted to do everything super quick to keep up with him! So, hopefully your baby will be the same.

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