2nd baby too attached to mum

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Our 2nd baby, now 4 months old is a very gripy baby. She cries much more than our 1st with very little indication of what's wrong. To make things even harder she frequently will not calm down for anyone but mum and sometimes even then not without a lot of back-breaking swaying and rocking and lunge walking. She is struggling with having to take most of this burden.

Ideally I'd ask how to have a less grumpy baby but at this point I'd just like to be able to assist mum more in placating her. We've tried all the obvious advice and are at a loss. Please help! T.I.A.

Have you considered reflux, and/or dairy intolerance?

She is the most refluxy baby you would ever meet. The frequent puking doesn't help things either. Mum wants to breast feed until 6 months though for the health properties of natural milk

I had this . Going totally dairy free helped, also avoiding tomatoes. Omeprazole for the baby helped too. Keeping him upright in a sling. It’s really really tough though and you have my sympathies. I know it’s not much help now but it does eventually go away, and what you realize when you look back is how attuned you have become to your baby and her needs, and how much ch you notice

Oh - I breastfed until baby was age 3 - but reflux was gone at 18 months.

This sounds really normal - all babies just want mum at this age. Some babies are clinger than others.

Ps that’s not to say it’s not hard on mum. Best advice is just to try and hang on in there - she’ll be a completely different baby in a few months. In the meantime give mum a break at the times of day baby is happier - maybe during day or in morning? And have the baby upright in a sling a lot.

Go dairy-free - will help massively

I second going dairy free. Helped loads with my gripey baby.

I presume you’re the dad? Or partner? Just wanted to say my DH taking baby out of the house really helped me as I could rest. Even though he wasn’t always happy at least I couldn’t hear it and could have a break.

Does anyone have any good reading material on the topic of diary free?

This may help kellymom.com/health/baby-health/food-sensitivity/

At four months old there really isn’t such a thing as “too attached to Mum”

My son was better after he went on reflux meds. Maybe see a GP if she's bringing up a lot.