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If your dc was late to toilet training /self trained

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LetsPlayBamboozled · 26/02/2018 14:13

please tell me what happened / whether you had to give them a nudge or use any rewards?

DD is near enough 3.5. She was never keen to wee in the potty but finally showed interest in the toilet. Last month she happily sat on it which was ahuge step and I thought she'd be keen to get on with it. But left it to her and after amonth she's just put a wee in the loo for the first time yesterday, hurray!

Today she had nursery so obviously didn't want to rush her into knickers after just one wee. But once home, after lunch, she needed a clean nappy so I asked if she'd like to wear knickers and try weeing in the toilet again and she said no so she's in a nappy.

If yours was like this, did you also do rewards? Should I just let her keep going on her own terms at this slow pace? Or do I need to nudge her /break out the chocolate rewards /just put her in pants and say right no more nappies?

I just can't decide the best course of action!

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Echobelly · 26/02/2018 14:31

Both my kids were late with this, especially son who was past 3.5 when he finally got it. The problem we found with DS, especially regarding pooing, was that he just didn't stay on the loo long enough. What really helped was getting a timer and basically telling him to sit on the loo (with a book or toy to hand) for five minutes until the timer went off. He quite liked that and it taught him to stay on the loo for a little bit if nothing came out immediately.

Cockmagic · 26/02/2018 14:35

Mine was the same, to be honest when she was 3 and a half i just stopped using nappies during the day. She still needed them at night though

I did a little reward chart and a few 20ps for number 2s.

I just told her she was a big girl and no more nappies a little reluctance at first but she soon got bored of accidents and having to get changed many times a day.

Took a few weeks, I also did it in the 6 weeks holidays so we had days at home to train.

geekymommy · 26/02/2018 14:35

We used a surprise box. We got a plastic bin (a Sterilite knockoff) and let DD decorate it with stickers and the like. Then I got some cheap toys that I thought she would like, and put them in it. I got them at the dollar store or Five Below, maybe you could get some at Poundland or someplace like that? She got one toy for peeing in the potty, two for pooping in the potty. Eventually it went down to one toy for pooping in the potty. Another option (though it doesn't seem to be working as well with DS age 2.5) is that he can watch a half hour TV show for peeing in the potty.

We did have to move to big kid underwear before we were absolutely certain we were ready- it was a leap of faith. We did this in the summer and had her wear shoes that wouldn't be ruined if she peed on them. They were those plastic transparent sandals that we call jellies- I don't know what you call them in the UK.

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gussyfinknottle · 26/02/2018 14:52

It was really hard. My dd is now 10 and cannot remember it. Open nappy on a potty helped. Sitting in the loo blowing real or pretend bubbles helped. Wine ( or your poison of choice) helped after they have gone to bed.
Don't be conned by other people who love showing off about their little darling being fully potty trained at 18 months or whatever.
My dd didn't really get it until she was about 4.5 . Even then ...

Fishinthesink · 26/02/2018 20:57

DD was also late- we didn't get her out of nappies until almost 3.5. We had to do it totally at her pace and cold turkey didn't work- we actually started by nursery taking her out of nappies in the afternoon then gradually increasing the time. She's just 4 and mostly ok now bit she is awful at going on request and although will use the toilet while we are out often asks for the potty at home. I don't think the 'just put them in pants' approach works if they are reluctant as there's something else going on.

bribery didn't work either- she'd rather be wet than bribed- but she is very independent minded anyway and not bribable! we did let her watch the iPad while sitting on the potty to encourage a poo though.

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LetsPlayBamboozled · 27/02/2018 11:38

Thanks ladies! Yeah, pooing.. can't see that clicking into place anytime soon..! maybe shouldn't push it. Having said that she does love surprise eggs geeky . 20p's and a timer a great idea too. Jelly shoes and Gin might be my favourite ideas though!

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Strippervicar · 27/02/2018 11:46

DD has just turned 3 and we are into week 3 of knickers. She goes on a timer and is allowed to watch iplayer on my phone. Big treat. She's gettting there. I'd have preferred to wait longer but the pressure (of people asking me and then telling my their toddler genius has been dry since just 2 and dry at night) and also she is starting dance classes after easter. I can't send her to ballet in a nappy!

Strippervicar · 27/02/2018 11:46

Oh and she keeps saving poo for the bath. Ugh.

gussyfinknottle · 27/02/2018 11:56

Poo? Serious suggestion based on input I had from a specialist dealing with an MS related problem I had as an adult:
Sit on the loo with legs on a little step to raise your knees up a bit. Then, blow bubbles (real or imaginary). It makes the right muscles work to get a poo out (sorry if TMI, but, hey, this is potty training).
My dd sat on the loo and she blew enormous imaginary bubbles that enveloped me. I tried to sing or shout through the imaginary bubble but I was trapped. Until I took an imaginary claw or pin and popped it. I may have turned into our cat at some point in proceedings. .
With each puff the bubble had grown bigger and bigger - she measured this increase with her hands gradually growing apart.
It was such fun that I think my after hours wine consumption went up during that period.
She still says "can we blow a big bubble " now and then to me. For a laugh. Good luck all.

Cutesbabasmummy · 27/02/2018 12:46

Read "Oh Crap! It's Potty Training". Its fantastic and has worked for everypne I know and fast too.

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LetsPlayBamboozled · 02/03/2018 20:47

So true about Ballet Stripper, about the bath!

Oh I remember reading something similar about giving birth, relaxing the sphincter muscles I mean, not specifically blowing bubbles!

Cute thank you so much, got the e-book, read it and as nursery was closed today we have gone for it!!

We have had wee and poo in the toilet and only one accident at teatime, which was once she had trousers on so I am massively impressed with dd and hoping we can get beyond the wearing clothes thing at least some of the time by the time Monday rolls around.

Thank you ladies!

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Huuwayeye · 02/03/2018 20:51

Following...

Having trouble getting my 3 year old dd to use the potty/toilet. She was doing really well but seems to have taken a giant leap backwards and I'm at a loss of knowing what to do.

Reassuring to hear from parents whose children weren't fully trained until 3-4 years. Friends with children dd's age all seem to have had their children fully trained by 2 at the latest so I feel like I must be doing something wrong.

KatyN · 03/03/2018 08:04

My son was between 3.5 and 4. We tried at 3 and he just wasnmt ready. When we tried again he was on it. Only ever has one accident.
We still had to instigate it (he wouldn’t have self trained) but leaving it later made it much Cleaner for us!

We had the potty in front of the telly.

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