sick and tired of washing pants - how long is this going to take?

[losty]

DS2 is 2.10 yo. A week ago he said 'no nappy, mine wear pants'. So, in to pants we went. However, he has not once in a whole week asked to do a wee. Althogh he will wee whenever he is sat on the toilet (he is too big for the potty). But despite sitting on the toilet almost every hour he still has accidents. And he has not yet done a poo on the toilet.

I am sick of washing pants. He was a refluxer until about 20 months and I feel as though I have swapped washing sicky clothes for wee and poo ones. Sorry.

Should I put him back in nappies? My gut instinct is not to go back to that, but how long will it take for him to be able to recognise that he needs a wee or a poo before he does it?

Sorry if this has been done a million times before, but i cant be bothered to search the boards

If it's getting to you and making you cross, it might be an idea to go back to nappies (or pull-ups?). Otherwise he might pick up on your frustration. Relaxation is the key, I think. You could still continue to put him on the potty/toilet regularly.

I agree rowan, but I am not his only carer and he is no different when I am not around, IYKWIM. I am worried going back to nappies/pull ups (same thing in our house) would confuse him....

Well, if you think you can carry on without losing your rag, there's no harm in it, I guess! They do say that kids who've been in disposables need to learn about what peeing actually is, as disposables are so good at soaking up the pee that kids really aren't aware that anything's happened. It could be that your DS is just going through this learning process. You could set yourself a deadline - say, three weeks to see some definite progress. If there isn't any progress by then, then you can go back to nappies. Don't worry, he will get trained eventually!

I tried to do ds2 at about 2.10 and it was a waste of time. 2 months later at almost 3 he cracked it in about 2-3 days with no accidents to follow. Much easier to just leave it imo.

have you tried going pantless and nappyless??

With DS2 he ran about the house half naked for the first few weeks, then we progressed onto trousers with no pants - and then finally after Christmas (about 5 months after starting ) we got him pants.

cor, go back to nappies - you'll know when he's a bit more ready (pulling pants up and down etc. etc.).

Sounds a total hassle and I honestly think a whole week without even one success just isn't worth continuing!

and 2.10 is not that old - he will probably catch on some time in the next 6 months.

thansk you two. I have a deadline of Sep when he starts nursery and has to be dry by then I am just worried to put him back in nappies now that he's been out of them for a week

I am very confused about what to do for the best

ahhh, blooming nursery.

Put him back in nappies - he isn't ready.

Come July/August time - sun will be shining (hopefully) and it will be much easier - chuck him in the garden loads with a naked bum over the next few months to give him an idea of when wees and poos are about (!) and hopefully, in a few month's time, he'll be a bit more ready.

There's really no point in trying to make him do it if he isn't ready for it.

gO back to nappies - I totally wish I did with ds, but was waaaaay too stubborn and believed all the "don't confuse him" crap. As it was he didn't click with the whole toilet thing until just before he turned 4.

I'm sure that was partly because of my frustration and anger about the whole thing. He definitely picked up on it to the point where he was scared of going to the loo and even more terrified of having an accident. They were dark days and it realy makes me sad that I pushed him so much.

I assumed that because he was so advanced with his language and understanding and ability in every other part of life that he would manage this. But it's a hormonal and physical thing - they either can or they can't - you can't train them.

Ds is 4.5 and was dry at night within weeks of stopping being wet in the day. There are days when he just doesn't get there in time and "dribbles" but that's all part of being a man

All the best and don't think of nappies as a step back - we eventually put him in pull ups last winter - I got eco ones as they were pattern free and loked more like pants rather than nappies.

Ease off and try again in a couple of months - let him run about in the nud in the garden

oh bobsmum that sounds like it was hard for you. Thanks for sharing with me.

I think I will go back to nappies/pull ups. But mydeadline has to be Sep when he starts nursery so he really has to to start in August - but I suppose that is 3 months away and a lot can change in that time.

I wasnt ready to start last week at all. but HE inititated it, and in THAT book it says follow their lead - and he did fit all the 'criteria' for starting. but I suppose it just goes to show babies arent machines. I suppose I also secretely hoped I would have one stage of his development free of stress

thanks for all your replies

My ds fitted all the criteria in that book too

oh I know and I also feel for you re wanting it to be stress free. I think it's brilliant that he's showing signs but to be totally stress free you almost need them to be stripping off their nappies and running to the loo .

The starting signs are there which is brilliant - I'm sure it will all follow soon but take off the pressure (and put him back in nappies) in the meantime and see what happens from here onwards!