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Anyone hate toddlerhood as much as I do???!!

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Shattered · 08/07/2002 23:59

Last week dh and I were invited by a colleague of dh to have dinner at his place. He is older than us and dh told me that he had been a very successful businessman in the past. Anyway as we could not get a babysitter that night, the colleague suggested that we just bring him along with us. (A bit of background, ds had not been very well the week before and was pretty tired this particular night). We walked in the door of this man's home and I nearly died, the place was perfectly decorated and didn't even look like it was "lived in" - you know, beautiful white lounge suite, crystal and glass everywhere and some VERY expensive-looking china vases and pottery. All I could think about was how I was going to stop ds from touching everything - it was like the proverbial 'bull in a china shop' situation. Anyway we managed to keep him restrained for a while but then we sat down for dinner, and after about 15 minutes in the high chair, he started whining and wanted to get down. The guy had gone to a lot of trouble and I was beginning to feel a bit uptight. Anyway we eventually let him get down and he started zooming around trying to touch everything, and then the inevitable happened - he raced into the kitchen and before we knew it, he'd grabbed a plate from the bench and it smashed on the floor. I just wanted the ground to swallow me up at this point. We apologised profusely and to cut a long story short, we ended up going home early - it was just a nightmare. Then to top it off, a couple of days later we were at the airport and dh and I were taking turns following ds around to make sure he wasn't getting into any mischief. A woman who was sitting nearby watching, said to me (with a bit of disdain) "He never stops, does he?" I felt like saying "Thank you for stating the bleeding obvious!!!!!" Honestly I wonder sometimes if my child is just an average toddler or if this level of activity is normal..? I must admit I feel like throttling him sometimes - any encouragement would be appreciated!! Thank you.

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SoupDragon · 01/10/2002 11:06

Chinchilla, my theory is that toddlers tune out the voice they hear most often. It's generally suce a treat to have Daddy talk to them that they stop immediately. I think it's the same as how we tune out background noises like the air conditioning, the PC humming etc and only notice them when they've stopped.

Sometimes I've had the best effect by whispering at my DSs.

And Rhubarb, we decided my DS1 really didn't like mushrooms when he held one in his mouth for over an hour.

Scatterbrain · 04/10/2002 19:19

Soupdragon - it works, it really works - the whispering I mean ! Tried it last night and it was amazing !

Thanks for the tip !

Rhubarb · 07/10/2002 16:23

I'm REALLY fed up now! I used to have a contented, quiet, cheerful, amiable little girl, now I have a whingey, whiney, moaning little monster! I cannot work out if she's not 100% or if it really is her age. She wakes up in a foul mood now, doesn't want to get dressed, go on the toilet or do anything. Doesn't want breakfast then cries when you don't give it to her. Isn't eating as well as she usually does, just asks for ours, or plays with her spoon, or drops bits on the floor. She is constantly behind me, making me trip, she wants "up" all the time, screams if her father picks her up. It's like walking on eggshells all the time! One minute she can be smiling, giggling, without a care in the world, next minute she's crying, whining with her arms round my legs, just because I went to get her a drink of water!

Is this just a phase? Or am I doomed to suffer this until she starts school? (or turns 21!) She has had a cold and a cough, a few disturbed nights, so maybe she's not well? It's the sudden mood changes that get to me. It's like working with a volcano all the time - you never know when she is going to erupt! We are trying the liberal "I'm not bothered" approach so she doesn't get attention for bad behaviour, but so far to little effect. Is it too late for adoption!!!

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SoupDragon · 07/10/2002 17:31

Scatterbrain - glad it worked!

Chinchilla · 07/10/2002 21:43

I too tried the whispering, and it didn't work. I also tried putting on a different voice - no result either! It amused me to think what I must have looked like though! I think that he sees Daddy as the behaviour monitor because he is less 'soft' towards his behaviour. He knows that he can get round me easily.

I think that I am just doomed to having a wilful child! Never mind...he is the most beautiful boy in the world, and can charm the birds out of the trees when he wants to. Also, when playing in the lounge, he occasionally comes up to me and gives me a huge hug before returning to his toys. So, I can forgive him a lot!

WideWebWitch · 07/10/2002 23:21

Tried the whispering middle of the night on Saturday night when ds was screaming the house down for no good reason and waking up all 6 guests... he just looked at me as if I'd lost it and resumed screaming. So then I did lose it. Anything is worth a go though...

LiamsMum · 08/10/2002 10:31

Amazingly enough, ds seems to be having a lot less tantrums these days, but what he IS doing is getting into a lot of mischief. He's so quick and I have caught him doing so many things of late. About a week ago, I found him sitting at the dining table cutting up strawberries with a pair of scissors - he was wearing a white shirt and there was strawberry juice everywhere. He also keeps emptying a particular box of tissues and leaving them strewn all around the room and even though I scold him and put the tissues back, he does the same thing again. (Yes I know, remove the box). I also found him scribbling on the coffee table today, and I have discovered him numerous times sitting quietly on the pantry floor eating his way through a container of biscuits. I just cannot believe how quickly he gets up to mischief, I only have to turn around for a few seconds... it really feels like a form of torture sometimes. I feel like I'm cleaning up the same messes day after day...

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