Hi
I'm pretty new here! I have a 3 year old son, and I've just found out I am about 8 weeks pregnant with baby number two with my boyfriend who's taken on my son as his own.
I've been on contraception since my son was born and fell pregnant on the pill, obviously completely unplanned...
He's been distant since we found out, causing arguments and has gotten 'lazy' in the relationship and parenting my son. He keeps causing arguments and keeping things from me. He's obviously in shock and is very anxious about this all, as most first time dads are. He's a planner, he has made a time line for him to work to, which doesn't include any "surprise" plans.
I'm just wandering what more I can do to help him.. I'm the bread winner, I pay for everything, I keep everyone afloat but it's all left me feeling very alone and unwanted. I've told him how his actions/ reactions have left me feeling but won't reciprocate and speak to me.
Please help, advice, if you've been in his shoes, what helped you, if you've had to deal with this, what did you do, I want to help him see that all though this is a surprise, it's not a regret and it will be worth it. I want him to enjoy the pregnancy, the journey etc with me and the family we have become.
Thanks