Daughter wakes every night

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Ok I'm wondering if I can have a little advice, my daughter is 5. She is great at going into her own bed at night. But she wakes up every single night without fail and comes into my bed. I have tried changing the mattress to a much more comfortable one.... total waste because it's still happening. I was wondering if anyone can give me some tips on ways that might make her stay in her own bed?

TIA XX

Put her back. Every single time. ‘This is your bed, where you sleep. That is MY bed, where I sleep’.

FGS if you can’t deal with this one, you’ve got a difficult future coming up...

Depends how much effort you want to make and how much it bothers you.
I have always put mine back - they sleep in their own beds well at 5 and 8.
My best friend always let hers come into her bed - she preferred that to getting up in the night and was happy for them to sleep with her. Her DC sleep in their own beds well at 5 and 8 too.

It's of little comfort now but there will come a day you will miss her wee cuddly body appearing in your bed.

We have the same problem with our nearly 3 year old. We haven't tried very hard to stop it so far as have been pregnant and now got a new born. But have told her she can get a treat or happy face sticker if she stays in bed all night which she likes the sound of. We are planning on getting tougher soon with her when she moves rooms as the baby will have hers. But it is not as easy as it sounds getting them to sleep in their beds.

Thanks everyone for you replies.

And HOPECLEARWATER .... thanks for your advice ... there was no need for your nasty little comment at the end.
Must be great being a perfect parent.

I didn't deal with it when dd was 5: I don't think that made my future particularly difficult.

It's a cultural thing. Here in the UK you are judged as a parent if you fail to teach your child to sleep separately as early as possible. In fact, you are judged far, far more harshly than if you allow them to eat lots of fattening food or drink sugary drinks which are demonstrably bad for your teeth or take next to no exercise.

Some other countries have different priorities, parents are a lot more lax, or do what suits them individually, because it's not really something you get judged on. In other countries again, families sleep communally anyway, and there is not evidence that children grow up incapable of handling adult life.

Of course it is absolutely fine to train your dd not to come into your bed if that is what you want to do. But you're not a failure as a parent if you go a bit lax on this one either.

Whatever you choose to do, she is not going to be coming into your bed when she's a teenager: you'll be lucky if you can get a quick hug before she shoots off to spend the weekend at her friend's.

There was another post like this recently except the girl in question was 9. You don't wanna be doing this in 4 years time (I presume?!) so Clearwater is absolutely right - put her back, every.single.time. Sorted.