Sleep help for twins

[sparkle17]

Hi, my 4 week twins are so noisy at night. Lots of grunting and random cries. During the day they can go 3 - 3.5hrs every feed but at night it is every 2 hours. It is hard to switch off at night. Do I respond to each cry/feeding cue or wait till they are really crying. I'm getting conflicting advice from family members.

At four weeks I responded to every cry for my twins. Their tummies are tiny just now, they will get bigger.

To be honest I never really ever left mine alone to cry. Babies cry to communicate.

It’s exhausting I know. It will get better.

I’d try not to listen to family members, especially the olde ones. There has usually been a heap of research done since they had their babies.

If my babies did a whimper I’d usually put a hand gently on their tummy to see if it settled them, if it didn’t I’d feed them.

Leaving babies to cry as in “cry it out” isn’t recommended until after they are one as it affects brain development.

It's dreadfully hard. My twins were the same at that age. I hope you have help. I needed it! It gets better, I promise! I used dummies a fair bit xx

Oh and don't listen to any advice from anyone who hasn't had twins. They know feckall!! xxx

With my twins we left them from about 6 weeks, Until they woke us up crying. Sometimes they settle themselves from murmurs and whimpers. At 4 weeks they were in our room so easier to placate. I think at 8!weeks they were in their own room

We had a policy of one up, all up.

It's bloody exhausting and I hope your DH is doing his share. You've got a wonderfully adventure ahead of you though.

With my twins I responded to every cry at that age. They are tiny still. It's a beautiful but tough time. Mine are now 3.5 years and despite some serious ageing and grey hair through lack of sleep it's been so special. Stick with it, accept help and enjoy it x

Have you found the MN multiple births section Sparkle? That may be of some help and have a read of The Baby Sleep Book. It’s evidence based and the author has actually had children unlike most baby gurus