DD1 (6) told me a lie, because she told me what I wanted to hear...

[katepol]

It was not about anything significant - I asked her to ask her teacher something last week. She forgot, but on Friday came back and told me she had.
After chatting with her yesterday, she eventually told me that she hadn't asked her teacher the question on Friday (but did yesterday).
I told her that I ONLY want her to tell the truth, even if it is something I don't like.

It has worried me that (1) she would 'start' a lie (ie I hadn't asked her about it, she volunteered the lie) and (2) that she feels the need to 'please me' by lying (she knew I wanted her to ask the teacher).

I would say that we had a great relationship - she is a confident child and happy to talk with me about everything. I wonder where this need to lie came from?? Is 6 a typical age to try these things out, and so nothing to worry about in the greater scheme of things?

6 typical dont sweat it

typical

she sounds very sweet

Normal and typical. And we all do it!

Boss: Have you sent that email?
Worker: Yup, absolutely! (rushes to desk to send email)

This is about the age where they realise that they don't have to tell the truth all the time if they can get away with it. All credit to your dd for coming clean though.

My dd2 (only 3) tries to tell me fibs 'yes mummy I have been to the toilet' but she's so crap at lying that she giggles.

dd1 (7 in a couple of weeks) could be much more duplicitous if she chose.

my four year old does this, my seven year old doesn't - think it is just a kind of personality thig.

Don't worry.

My children are both equally wonderful!

I can guarantee that at 6 she's isn't starting to lie.....not if you compare her to most 6 yr old I know.

Totally normal.

LOL! this isn't her first lie - but usually it is about what time she turned her light out and went to sleep, or whether she has gone for a wee before we left the house...

I can tell when she is doing one of 'those' lies, and it is generally in response to my question.

This lie feels different because she started it, and I couldn't tell it was a lie. She didn't need to lie as I hadn't asked, and I wouldn't have known about it unless the conversation had got round to it.

Hwr, she is a pretty lovely 6 yr old, so I guess I am owrrying over nothing

Ta!