The whole family in the same month!

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I'm new to mumsnet, just found out I'm pregnant, and super excited about it! (both mumsnet and being pregnant :P). We'd been TTC for a few months without any luck, and last month decided to not really try - partly just to have a break and not stress about it, and party if it did happen then we would have an October baby. But of course we did do the deed and clearly relaxing made a difference because it's happened!! But... here is why I wasn't keen on having an October baby.

If all goes to plan,
Baby DD 17 October
My birthday 13 October
DH's birthday 28 October.
and add to the mix - my brother's birthday 7 October.

So baby will be right in the middle. I know I shouldn't be bothered with having baby's birthday so close to ours, but it feels like all 3 of us in the same month is a bit much!!

Does anyone have experience of parents sharing birth months with their children. Does it make any difference really? I know it's all different once we're adults and kiddies will come first... but still.

Finally... and changing the subject ... what's it like having a Autumn baby? How much harder are the night shifts when the days are short and the nights stretch into oblivion??

My DD was born oct 11 (which means I was you last year just finding out around this week). My DS has a June birthday.

The time of year hasn’t made much difference really. I think I preferred June as it wasn’t that hot when I was heavily pregnant and I could get out for walks more with a small baby, but it’s all different second time round anyway. October was good for snuggling up with the baby or bundling them up into the pram for a trip out. It was nice having a little baby at Christmas too!

We have DP, DF and FIL's bdays within a few days of each other at the beginning or March, DS1 is due 2 weeks before them (next Thurs) but shows no sign of emerging any time soon. Never thought about the downside, just thought it was strange!

Congratulations OP! I wouldn't worry about the birthday issue - I know a couple of people who have the exact same birthday as their child and it's not an issue. I would use it as an excuse to have a lovely big family celebration!

All our family birthdays are in the same month:

May - OH and DM
August - DS and DFil
28 december to 4th Jan - DS, DMil and DBil!!!

Both of my boys are early/mid Jan, I'm early Feb. They're still young but the plan is to not go overboard

My mother in law, nephew and niece are all on the same day in june, then my birthday is 3 days later and my husbands a week later, then another niece a week after that 😂 expensive month but no issue x

Surely you knew when you did the deed that 9 months on it would have a birthday in October

My mum, DD, Ds1 and my niece all have their birthdays within 13 days of each other, as well as my parents wedding anniversary!
I share a birthday with an uncle and my GM is the day after.
It’s never been a problem apart from the expense, I save up through the year to pay for it all.

We have 4 children all with September birthdays:

Sept 14th
Sept 21st
Sept 26th
Sept 27th - me (somewhat overshadowed)
Sept 30th

(3 of my children had identical due dates)

This is then followed by my bothers 2 children (my mums only other grandchildren) both with October birthdays. Expensive time for Nana!

I have three children with two birthdays between them, and i dont have twins.

Seriously, dont worry about it.

Growing up in our family, my mum is 8 days before mine, then me, then 2 days later my dad.

As an adult, we’ve added my DH (2 days before me), a niece (2 days before DH) and a whole host of friends - it’s a popular month!

It was never a problem growing up, and is nice in lots of ways as an adult as we can share celebrations, but I’m not a massive fan of a big individual fuss so suits me.

My DH's birthday is 7th of the month, our twins are 11th, mine is 16th! Doesn't bother me - as soon as you have kids (at least when they're small) their birthdays are much more significant than yours.

Me, dh and ds1 all have January bdays. Obviously we make a fuss of ds and ignore ours. Most adults ignore January bdays anyway I find. We tend to do something nice for our anniversary instead.
I had a start of Nov baby too. I found it harder having an Autumn baby than a Winter baby. There was a lot of cold, dark Winter to get through before Spring!

DS and I are a day apart.
We love Birthday Week.
Our house smells of freshly baked Birthday cakes for days on end.
It is really nice actually.

Add to that 5 other family members with Birthday in the same month and it is a busy time!

More common that I expected! I'm 6th, ds is 11th and dd is 26th all July. Dd was due 31st August so bit of a surprise! Last year ds and dd had joint birthday party which at 1&3 worked well and I had lovely meal out!

More randomly myself my sister and my mum are all born on the 6th of different months!

DS and I have the same birthday. It's actually really lovely and makes the day seen more special. He's autumn born and that has made a huge difference to how well he has settled in school.

My children were all due in the same week of October, although one being late & the other two early means that all their birthdays fall in a five week period. We also have four close family members with birthdays in the same period. It’s fine - just how it is.

Personally, I loved having autumn babies. I liked that it was dark when I wanted them to sleep. I didn’t have to stress about keeping them cool, keeping them warm was easy. On days when I was too tired to go out I didn’t have the feeling I was wasting a lovely day. I felt totally justified sitting on the sofa and cluster feeding. Our first was autumn born by happenstance, the second two by design because I liked it so much.

Dd1 and dd2 have birthdays in January, 13 days apart. I wouldn't have chosen it and it's an expensive time of year, but this year they had a joint party and were very happy to share their celebrations.

I know a family where all four of the ncoear family, and 3/4 ofthe grabdoarents have birthdays within the same three week period.

Pricey :)

My son's birthday is 2 days before mine and my partners is a day after mine which is also my grandads birthday! It gets expensive

I share a birthday month with my dad and my sister shares hers with my mum, doesn't make a difference in my experience, just double the celebrations!

Also (hopefully this won't be you!) but my baby was due on the 7th October... and appeared on the 22nd after I went 2 weeks overdue and was induced- so you never know, you might end up with a November baby! 🙈 DS is now 15 weeks old and to be honest when they're that young all the days and nights seem to bleed into one anyway but I haven't had a baby in the summer or spring so can't compare.

Congratulations OP and hope pregnancy goes smoothly for you! :)

I’ve only got Autumn babies (one sept, one oct). The night feeds are what they are. Sheepskin slippers help!

Really good to know this is not as uncommon as I though! Thanks everyone for your comments and support. I know it seems such a silly thing to stress about - but I just found myself getting a bit obsessed about it! But the idea of a nice big family party sounds great. It's just a good thing our anniversary is in June so my husband can I can make sure we do something special for ourselves then!
Definitely feeling better, and now just hoping this baby sticks around as am super excited to meet him/her in October!!

Thanks all! It really helps to know that this is not as unusual a coincidence as I'd thought. And as everyone has said, we'll make it work and probably have a big family celebration around that time. I'm glad our anniversary is in June so we can always make that really special for us so that October becomes more about baby and family. Now I'm just hoping that this baby sticks and stays with us because I'm really excited to meet him/her in October!!

oops... it looks like my earlier post hadn't gone so just posted again. Now there's two!