Giving dummy back to 3y/o AIBU?

[Coffeeelover]

Hi wise parents I need some advice please. At Christmas we put our DD dummies on the tree for Father Christmas to take and replace with a present. She knew it was happening but wasn’t really ready. But due to pressure from DH and other people that she is too old for it we did it. Since then she has been waking up consistently at 4.30-5.30 every day and she is miserable. She cries a lot at little things, has bags under her eyes and is exhusted by 4pm (as are we and her siblings)! Last might I gave her the emergency dummy for bed just to see if she would sleep through and to try and get a whole night of sleep and she did! She slept until 6.45! My DH is cross I have her the dummy and said it’s going backwards which i can see his point completely. I just don’t know what to do for the best.

who's been getting up at 4.30 with her?

I'm with you OP. We tried getting 3yo DD to sleep without her dummies and she reverted to being up 3x a night, not just a couple of times but for weeks. We gave them back.

I don't know any adults who use a dummy. The oldest I've known anyone have one is one of my friends who said she had one til she was 11 and gave it up when friends started coming round to her house. She is a happy well adjusted adult with perfect teeth (unlike me now on my second round of orthodontistry, never had a dummy as a baby).

I think we sweat about dummies way too much. I'm prepared to insist DD leaves hers upstairs and only has it for sleeping but at the end of the day it's a source of comfort to her, I wouldn't take her teddy bear away for some mythical fear that she'd end up too attached or it was babyish or she'd be the only adult in an office clutching a teddy. She can keep her dummy until she wants to get rid of it and I'll save my energy (which I have more of when she is not up 3x a night) for picking other battles like trying to get her to eat food at the table or use her words instead of her whining voice...