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Worried about second child....

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guest477337 · 05/02/2018 20:14

I have a child that is a few months old and in a few months want to start trying again.

This might sound stupid but I get worried about this. About loving a second child as much as my first? It's weird because I can't imagine loving something as much as I love my little girl. Did other people feel like this?

Another thing I worry about is having a second small child, I worry I wouldn't show enough attention to my now little girl who would pobably be about 1 year to 1 and a half years old.

Experiences would be appreciated 😄 hope this doesn't make me sound a horrible person.

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InDubiousBattle · 05/02/2018 21:15

The love doesn't dilute, it doubles. I mean could you have imagined how much you would love your first before you had her!?

I have a 19 month age gap and tbh the first 6 months with two were very hard but they're 2.6 and 4 now and it's lovely!

Beemommy · 05/02/2018 21:26

No you do not sound like a horrible person but I think I will now😂
Your worries are totally normal and I had exactly the same ones. I got pregnant with my second when DS was 10 months old.
Same as you I was going on the internet and reading reassuring stories that you will love your second as much as your first as soon as you will hold him/her in your arms. But when my second was born my worst fears came true. The only thing I felt was that she gonna take me away from my precious little boy. I was not sleeping at all because whenever I would put her to bed I would be running to spend time with my boy. She is 8 months now and as she is growing I am bonding with her more and more.
Many may disagree and maybe they had different experiences but to me I never felt as much love for her as I did for my first. Maybe it just takes time, I really hope it will get better.

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