Lovely Friend has horrid horrid Kid!!!

[Tessiebear]

Have a friend with DS's the same age as mine. The youngest (nearly 4) is very violent and never gets told off for it. On a trip to the park yesterday within the hour he managed to punch my DS2 in the stomach (he was in agony), slap DS1 round the face very hard, hit him on the head and back and take his bike. My DS1 who is 3 years older than the child was crying and begging to go home. I stayed for the sake of the friendship with my friend who continued to not tell him off, and i stayed near my DS's so they did not get hurt. Her eldest DS1 is very nice and not aggressive.
Should i A) Make excuses not to see her (Dont feel this is very honest)

B) Tell her the truth and risk losing the friendship

C) put up with it for the sake of the friendship (Although it has got to the stage where i do not feel i can have him round the house as he usually breaks lots of things and causes mass destruction)

ANY IDEAS APPRECIATED??????

I think I'd tell the truth, surely she can see that your children are on the receiveing(sp?) end so she couldn't say it doesn't happen.

Good luck.

What about going to the cinema, for dinner once that the children are in bed or a coffee/lunch while they are at the school.

Obviously your friend is not worried about her DS behaviour or thinks it's OK, or if she has realised and has not done anything about it, it's possibly because she thinks she can't. So, you need to see first for your children welfare, if the relationship gets damaged because of this, just think that it will get damaged anyways as you would reach a point when you no longer could tolerate her ds's behaviour.

Good luck.

on second tought I think I do a combination of A and B.

Absolutley not C though!!

I meant to say that you need to speak to her or otherwise, stop meeting with kids.

Ooh, I had a friend like this! In the end I made a point of only meeting up when both our eldest were at playgroup, because it was her DS1 that was the nasty one. She never ever saw his sly slaps & pokes & thumps to my kids- all she ever saw was my DD standing up for herself & hitting him back! It just isn't worth the hassle.

What a horrible situation

I'm sure there's a better solution, but I think I would end up finding excuses not to see them in the day, but arrange to go out in the evenings together without kids... then you get the best of both worlds.