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Another baby, too soon?

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Mummy2lots · 04/02/2018 21:24

Me and my partner have been together over a year, he has 3 Kids 9,7,6 (he has them 4 nights a week) and I have 1 son 4 (with me full time) We don’t live together due to the kids being in different schools and not wanting to cause too much upheval, it’s a decision we are Happy with for the next few years and are at peace with... There’s an 11yr age gap between us, I’m 25 he’s 36. We both want a baby together, but I keep having a wobble thinking it’s too soon, we will never have time alone anymore, then I think.. well its only for a short time in the grand scheme of things. My partner is amazing at the moment, he’s a fab dad, hands on, nothing phases him. So I know he won’t ever leave me struggling. But is it too soon? Is it silly adding a 5th?

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NapQueen · 04/02/2018 21:26

You have been together one year, dont live together and have 4 kids between you.

It would be Utter Madness.

Isadora2007 · 04/02/2018 21:28

YES it’s too soon. Let your children adjust to life with a new parent and each other before you even think about adding another child please.

HappyLollipop · 04/02/2018 21:32

Super stupid idea. You've only been together a year and don't even live together!

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Gekkoforprimeminister · 04/02/2018 21:47

I'd say you're quite young still so there's no rush. Why start planning now and decide what needs to be achieved before you have another baby. As a minimum I think you need to have been living together for a while first.

Figgygal · 04/02/2018 21:50

Why would you?? Far too soon and not cool for any of your existing children

BookHelpPlease · 04/02/2018 21:51

Insane idea!

Hugely disruptive and unfair to the children you both already have. Live together for a couple of years first. I wouldn't even say he is a partner just a boyfriend if you've only been dating a year and don't even live together!

The children you do have need to feel comfortable and like you are a family unit before adding another. Especially when you are so young there is no rush!

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