Another baby, too soon?

[Mummy2lots]

Me and my partner have been together over a year, he has 3 Kids 9,7,6 (he has them 4 nights a week) and I have 1 son 4 (with me full time) We don’t live together due to the kids being in different schools and not wanting to cause too much upheval, it’s a decision we are Happy with for the next few years and are at peace with... There’s an 11yr age gap between us, I’m 25 he’s 36. We both want a baby together, but I keep having a wobble thinking it’s too soon, we will never have time alone anymore, then I think.. well its only for a short time in the grand scheme of things. My partner is amazing at the moment, he’s a fab dad, hands on, nothing phases him. So I know he won’t ever leave me struggling. But is it too soon? Is it silly adding a 5th?

You have been together one year, dont live together and have 4 kids between you.

It would be Utter Madness.

YES it’s too soon. Let your children adjust to life with a new parent and each other before you even think about adding another child please.

Super stupid idea. You've only been together a year and don't even live together!

I'd say you're quite young still so there's no rush. Why start planning now and decide what needs to be achieved before you have another baby. As a minimum I think you need to have been living together for a while first.

Why would you?? Far too soon and not cool for any of your existing children

Insane idea!

Hugely disruptive and unfair to the children you both already have. Live together for a couple of years first. I wouldn't even say he is a partner just a boyfriend if you've only been dating a year and don't even live together!

The children you do have need to feel comfortable and like you are a family unit before adding another. Especially when you are so young there is no rush!