Will try and cut really long story short! I’m currently 40 + 3 weeks (went 2 weeks over due last time so not expecting much before then lol) and obviously starting to struggle a little with entertaining DD who is a lively 2 and a half.
I finished work at 36 weeks (had to as physical job in healthcare) and I used to work 3 long days a week on a shift pattern, my mum and MIL used to take turns having her either 2 or 1 times a week alternate weeks. My mum thoroughly enjoyed it and used to always take DD out and do different activities. Before I went off she suggested maybe having a set day/afternoon each week where she would always take my daughter out or back to hers to keep up a bit of a routine with DD, so I could schedule in something which is easier without a toddler (ie dreaded food shops, chores or just resting before baby!) and so she had time with her too. Well, I’ve now been off 4 weeks and she has had DD for about 2 hours on 2 occasions - 1 of which was just waiting around for me to go to a hospital appointment and she asked if I could come straight back after - she had no reason why. I have been round her house a couple of times also socially so I can see my dad and she sat there and read a book and didn’t even interact with my daughter. I can 100% guarantee she will be turning up on my doorstep every day when I have the baby and telling me how to do things. She hasn’t taken any interest in this pregnancy and hasn’t even spoken to me in about a week or even asked if we have a plan bout what’s happening with my toddler when I go into labour (my MIL is having her now due to my mums lack of interest).
I don’t expect my mum to help out much at all, I always told her she could always say if she was finding it too much (and she would!). She is retired and has a busy social life (pleased for her!) Just seems we are now forgotten in her priorities despite this being her suggestion. She hasn’t even spoken to me in a week despite going over due.
Should I bring this up or just get on with things? I just know inside I am going to blow if she suddenly starts showing her face as soon as the baby is here. I know my DD will get pushed aside and will pick up on this that nanny isn’t coming to see her or taking her out anymore :(
Sorry this is more of a rant than anything! Anyone else had same or similar situation before arrival of baby no 2?! X