Hello everyone! Just looking for a bit of advice really
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I want to move with my 7 month old son to Scotland to be with my partner of a year and bio dad has spat his dummy out.
I met my partner when I was at University and he has offered continuous support throughout my pregnancy and beyond. We are currently in a long distance relationship and struggle with managing everything on the odd weekends we get together, there's pressure for every second to be perfect when - let's be realistic - it never is with a baby. We have lived together before and know it will work, but I moved home after I had the baby to be with my family.
Currently the bio dad spends 6 hours a week with my son in my house, split over two days. (He did stay for longer periods before but reduced it himself without reason) He wants have DS at his house staying over, which I have no problems with as he gets closer to 1 and has had proper time adjusting to the bio dads environment.
However, he wants to move in with 3 other 23/24 year olds, which means my son would essentially be staying in the 'man child' version of student accommodation. Surely it is not ridiculous of me to think that's ludicrous?
My current plan, providing adequate accommodation, is that he will have DS overnight every two weeks. He'd have over 48+ hours with him, whereas he currently has 24 over the month.
I already live a 50 minute train journey away from the bio-dad, and moving to Edinburgh would only be an added 30 minutes. Still, to make it fair I would take DS one leg of the journey and then let his bio-dad bring him back the other. It would also save him £20 a month in train-fare.
The bio-dad hasn't provided for DS at all so far, not even a packet of nappies. I have recently asked for child maintenance from him but currently still waiting for a payment. He asked to be on the birth certificate so I know he has PR. (Even though he doesn't do anything he's meant to according to PR 
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Can he stop me from moving to Scotland? Can I just move anyway, then if he disagrees and take me to court deal with the case at that moment or do I have to go to court and apply to move?
I have given so many opportunities for the bio dad to have a strong and healthy relationship with my son, I want my son to grow up feeling supported and nurtured by both of us. I just can't see why I should be restricted to moving when I'm providing better opportunity and experiences for my son all for a man who has yet to show he cares for DS, especially when I'm actually making his life easier and have came up with a way for him to grow and maintain a relationship with his son. I can't think of any other reason for bio-dad protesting the move except because it's less convenient for him, not at all for the interests of my son who'll have access to far more than he does in this tiny town.
If anyone's been through anything similar, experienced this or has any advice please post your stories/help as its greatly appreciated!
-- I'm not trying to push my partner into acting like my sons father and push bio dad out either, naturally he has a fantastic relationship with him and I don't see why this relationship with my son should matter any less when he has also been there for him since day one.