2nd baby

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I am having real trouble deciding whether a 2nd baby would be the right thing to do or not. I have one very healthy 4 year old and feel now is my last chance to have another. I just can't decide what the right thing to do is. Every day I swing between sticking with one and having another. I'd like another year to think it over more but don't want to waste another year and to increase any age gap between DC1 and DC2. How did you decide?

I honestly didn't decide, I just knew. In the same way I know now I don't want another. I love having two - his little sister is the best gift I ever gave my son, he just adores her. I worried I would never love another baby as much as I love my son and my heart has just doubled. Hard work but totally worth it.

Thanks katurah, I wish I had a strong feeling one way or the other but it changes each day, literally hour by hour. I don't want to regret it either way

Might just be me but I think I'd regret not having one more than having one? Xx

I have a 4 year old and currently pregnant with 2nd child, I wasn’t sure whether to have another but mainly because I really struggled when my dd was a baby and wasn’t good with sleepless nights but I think I’ll be more mentally prepared this time, I always envisaged myself having 2, my partner wanted another child and I did want my dd to have a brother or sister too. I think this is a good age gap as dd will be starting school this year and hope that I can take my 4 years of experienced motherhood to the table and enjoy the baby. I’d say go with your gut and the rest will follow.

I have an 18 month old girl and another due in May. I always wanted two but actually probably would have be ok with just DD, however DH and I really wanted to give her a sibling close in age. I think had she got a few years older I would have thought no way, I don't want to go back to the baby years!