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Changed my sons name

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Longroadtohappiness · 29/01/2018 21:39

Last year I decided for myself and my son enough was enough I spoke to my son and we decided to change his surname to mine by deed poll, He is all for it. Father never had PR with my son being born before Dec 03. Growing up I myself a young mum wanted my son to have a relationship with his Father, which felt like after a few years forced so I gradually gave up trying. My son used to watch his 'Father' in our road playing with his new GFs son, (Plenty more has gone on which continuously upsets my son) This was when he wasn't in jail for numerous crimes, in which he is now in jail.(always been in and out). He had a good relationship with his paternal family up until he was like 7, but rarely sees them now. He has had members of that family say to him he only bothers to get money off his Father(bits and bobs over the years) in which for all those years his Father owes him the world in which, will never happen. My question really is, his paternal grandfather is causing up roar about me changing the name but don't we have the right to make that decision not these people who call themselves family to my son? Yeah he should have a link to them but being absent a name isn't going to change that, so now he has the same name as myself and his 2 siblings. He is getting harassed by his grandfather, even been to his school demanding it to be changed back. Just thoughts please?

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MiaD13 · 29/01/2018 23:01

My thoughts are : what's in a name?

If your DS is more comfortable with your name then that's that. End of discussion.

The grandfather being upset I can kind of understand but at the end of the day is he blind to everything that's happened ? Hardly seems fair and definitely not okay to take it out on your DS , he's got enough on his plate.

Hope the dust settles soon x

Longroadtohappiness · 30/01/2018 07:27

He is 14 nearly 15 so he is old enough to know what he wants. Thank you I hope it does soon for my DS’s sake x

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