Ex husband is blocking me from seeing my children

[Lovelylampshades]

I hope you can help or give guidance as i am at my wits end....

4 months ago i had to leave my family home.
My ex husband was mentally and physically abusive towards me for many years as well as manipulative and controlling. He is also a heavy drinker.

Things had become unbearable and i had finally decided that i had to get out.

I have 4 children with him ranging from 8 to 15 and they are still living at home with him. He had never been any of these things to the kids.

He is making it extremely difficult for me to access them.
He gets angry with them if they answer my calls or return messages. He has even manipulated them to block me from their phones so i hardly ever get to even speak with them.

He is telling them that I dont want to be with them and that I walked out on them by leaving him.
He is telling people that the kids don't want to be with me or see me.
He is also telling people that i had been having an affair and that is why i left which is not true.

I was extremely close to my children before I left him. I thought that when I left the kids would be able to be with me, i didnt realise that he would then control them in the way he controlled me.
I am very rarely allowed to see them now, he only lets me see them around once a fortnight overnight and demands that I have them back by a certain time the next day.
He says that as he is the main care giver any access has to be approved by him.

My lawyer is trying to get this resolved and i have been to mediation but nothing seems to be getting any better.

What can I do?

Sorry this is happening to you. It must be devastating.

I think the best thing you can do is get this into court as soon as possible. It probably seems scary but it may be the only way to get this sorted.

If your solicitor isn't doing a good enough job, get a new one who has experience of dealing with abusive relationships.

Are you on the mortgage? Report the physical abuse, get a non molestation and occupation order, serve the order and move back in with he kids.

Totally agree with Desmondo2016.

Don't hang around wasting your time and money with solicitors letters and mediation, go straight for the non-moleststion and occupation orders. he's a nutter and you can't mediate with a nutter, they are like terrorists.

The longer you leave it the more time he has to affect the children's mental well-being and they will end up believing him.

Good luck, I know it's hard but you must stay strong if he's as bad as you say.