At what age would you expect your DC to...

[LittleMe03]

Look after their own personal hygiene.

Meaning...

showering or bathing without needing to be reminded they need to wash.

Washing face each morning.

Brushing own teeth daily without needing to be asked.

Changing underwear daily.

Just interested to see the replies to know if me and DP are expecting too much

I read parents should continue to brush teeth until ten as kids are so rubbish at it! My dd is 7 and could wash herself but not do hair properly. She will put clean pants on independently each morning but would happily not wash or brush teeeh for weeks without being chivvied!

My 5yo does the last three but I do find 're teeth and face, think that's pretty normal.

My 13YO still needs reminders about showering, but 16YO didn't at that age. So it depends on the child.

I do remind!

My 13 year old does it all without being prompted but my 11 year old doesn't.

I send the 6 year old to get ready for school, and he will brush his teeth (I try to give a short scrub, but sometime miss time things and he's done), apply moisturiser to eczema patches and get dressed (into PE kit or uniform depending on the day). The 8 year old does the same - with prompting for uniform/PE kit requirements..
Ditto for the evenings - tho I make sure I help with the teeth.

I think it is due to personality type as well as age..

My 7yo can do everything himself but needs to be told. Go get your pyjamas and get in shower. Time to brush teeth. Get dressed now etc The 5yo is similar but I turn on/ off shower get clothes out of drawers type stuff.

I find an electric toothbrush helps tremendously with teeth, not the cheap disposable battery ones but a proper one.

Brushing teeth? I would say maybe 5? I'm sure I haven't needed to remind my own 5yo in a very, very long time though. DS5 and DD8 still bathe together so all I do is run the bath and wash DDs hair because she misses bits.

DD11 bathes herself fully but I do have to remind her sometimes that she hasn't bathed in a couple of days and to get her arse into the bathroom.

Both ds's 7 and 5 will change their pants, wash their face and start brushing teeth without being reminded at the right time. Obviously I finish their teeth. I run the bath when needed so they don't ask about it. They wash themselves in the bath and I wash their hair for them.

Most of those by 6 or 7, but reminding to shower (just a verbal reminder) rather longer, especially if the child doesn't have showering built into an automatic getting up or going to bed routine.

If they shower every day before putting on pyjamas or every day before getting dressed, never varying that, they'll remember to, but if it's different on different days due to showering after sport some days, or having morning showers some days but long early evening baths others, or they skip showering on Thursday as they get home really late from a non sport activity, or whatever you might need to remind til mid teens!

i know plenty of pre-teens and teens who still need a wee prompt in these areas.

I suppose it depends on the child. My 11yo DD still needs to be reminded to wash, brush teeth etc. She can do it on her own but doesn't always do it exactly how I'd like her too, but she was an early developer and is still very embarrassed about the changes. So Naturally refuses to let me into the bathroom while she washes. I respect those boundaries and just offer her my trust. Which is what the doctor has told me to do. I do however stand there while she brushes her teeth because I know she'd go weeks without if I didn't. She doesn't always take her washing out of her room and is notorious for putting dirty washing back in her wardrobe. So we have to regularly check and make sure she doesn't put dirty clothes on. She always puts clean underwear on though.
My 5yo son obviously has me or my DP wash him and his 2yo brother. He can dress himself and brushes his teeth of his own accord. Although one of us is there during to make sure it's done right. He's always been a neat child so he's great at wearing clean clothes and keeping his room clean and tidy.
Our 2yo nearly 3 obviously has us do everything but he's starting to show some independence so we allow him to choose his clothes. He's also a grubby baby, what we call him. He's a magnet for dirt and I can see him being our toughest one haha.

I keep wondering this about DSD9, she’s can do it all independently but would do none without prompting

Weeping my ten year old puts clean laundry back in the wash so as not to have to put it away He hasn't done it for a while but I'm certain it hasn't happened for the last time. I have more of his laundry to do than of the other children's as it is, because he gets muddy every single day so can never wear anything, even jeans, twice, and his coats need washing multiple times per week too... which I'm ok with as at least he's playing outside and very active, but I really don't need to rewash his clean stuff as well!

Allof the above un-reminded?

When they start getting interested in boys/girls I am sorry to say.

After that you cant get them out of the shower and away from the Linx/Impulse.

Thanks for replies. 12YO needs reminding to do most of these things on a daily basis and it can get quite frustrating.

At 12 I am certain I was running my own baths, brushing teeth twice a day, washing in the morning and changing underwear etc.

What I didn't do at that age was keep my room tidy. Clothes would come off and onto the floor and I don't think I made my bed until I was about 15 and my DM nagged at me every day

My 2 year old washes her own face if you give her the wipe, and has done for the last few months or so.

She can brush her teeth but needs help with the back ones.

Teeth- brush yourself until your child has the dexterity to tie shoelaces properly. Supervise/ nag for brushing- as long as you can possibly get away with it.
The rest- no idea, DS is only 5 and still has his baths with me

11yr old DS would be fine. I give his teeth a brush once or twice a week just to check but otherwise he's happy to keep clean. He even remembers to floss . He's into lynx these days too.

9yr old DD is another story. She still won't brush her teeth, I have to do it and it ends in meltdowns. Isn't that great at washing her face either.

DD was showering, brushing her teeth etc all independently and without needing prompting from 6-7 years old.

DS who is 11 and has ASD... he can do this stuff but he needs reminding, the tap turning on for him when showering, the bath run for him and until not that long ago (18 months ago) we had to brush his teeth for him. And everything has to be very particular. He won’t think to brush his hair. But he has started using deodorant recently.

It’s all individual!

My 12 year old DSD would stay in her PJ’s all day unless reminded. Same with washing, brushing teeth and hair. I’ve stated to get a bit supper nanny as at 12 I think she should start taking some responsibility without being nagged.

I still brush dts teeth once a day and let them do it once as I don't think they can do it properly.

They can shower themselves but not rinse hair properly.

They change knickers every morning and every night by themselves. I have no idea why but they insist on wearing knickers to bed. That's 28 pairs of knickers I have to wash each week just for them.

They'll wipe their faces after breakfast with a flannel but need to be reminded.

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