Cot bumpers - would you say something?

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A family member had a baby last year and recently they uploaded a photo which shows her baby in their cot with cot bumpers. It's well known now that bumpers aren't safe but I understand not everyone is aware and since shops still sell them I can see why people might assume they are safe.

This family member is older than me, and I don't want her to think I am judging or acting like a know it all. But having read Justice For Preston, I would never forgive myself if I didn't say something and something bad happened.

So how can I point out the safety issues with bumpers, without coming across as a bit of a twat? As a parent myself I know we can be a bit sensitive to suggestions from others at times. I was thinking of sending her a message like "hey, I don't know if you know but cot bumpers can be pretty dangerous, I wouldn't normally say anything but I'd hate for something bad to happen to little x" along with a link to the Lullaby trust.

Or maybe it's non of my business and I should just leave it?

Thoughts?

I would have given an eye roll if someone advised me not to have cot bumpers (hid it when the HV actually did) then one morning my DD was chatting over the monitor then whining (about 7 months old) so I went in and had somehow managed to get her head stuck under one of the sides. I was horrified and she was absolutely fine but I took them straight off. I'd just underestimated the odd positions they can get themselves in. If I saw one of my friends using one I wouldn't advise against it, I'd probably just recount what happened, say I know it's rare and let them decide from there. It's tricky without wanting to scare someone or piss them off.

I think your message is fine and yes, I’d point it out. But then I’m fairly blunt in real life!

I’m thoroughly against bumpers so do agree with you, I do worry you could get her back up with a random msg though.
Do you see her or have phone calls with her? Only it can often be better to speak on these things with a ‘light’ tone, texts and msgs are annoying as the receiver adds their own tone and assumptions to it.
You could talk about how beautiful the room is and then
“I see you decided on cot bumpers, I was a bit wary with all those stories”...then she might engage and learn about the risks.

Direct message not comment on a fb post, but do say something.

Yy to sending a direct message and maybe send a link to the article that you have just read.

I hate that shops sell these. I keep meaning to send an email letter to shops that do. The shops are so irresponsible.

Thanks for the replies, a private message looks to be the way forward. Hopefully she doesn't take it the wrong way.

I agree shops shouldn't sell them really, it Lulls people into a false sense of security thinking well they can't be that bad if shops sell them.

I see it all the time on Facebook. Cot bumpers, duvets, heavy blankets and pillows, lots of cuddly toys etc . Well done for sending the private message I'd never have the courage to do this and would absolutely hate myself if something happened to one of these babies. I never had a cot bumper for either of mine as my mum had one when I was a baby and she found me with it pulled over my face round my neck. I'm really paranoid about SIDS as it is my poor baby still goes to bed wearing a Snuza monitor.

I was just reading about Preston 2 days ago as well so sad.

Cot bumpers really anger me. It's ridiculous that they can be sold.