My kids don't get on!

[k8tyjones]

I have 3 kids DS1 is 18, DS2 13 & DD is 10 my DS2 is constantly on the case of my DD, every time he's near her he pushes her or says something spiteful, they literally cannot be in the same room together.
She is a very happy child whereas he is a little glass half empty and he seems to get joy from making her sad.
She is mostly very sweet with him, she likes to please him but it's most definitely not appreciated or reciprocated and it's really getting her down.
I've sat them both down many times and tried work on their relationship, he gets upset and says that he'll try harder which he does for a day or so but then he soon goes back to "normal"
Does anybody have any help/advice or have kids that have a similar relationship?

Have you read siblings without rivalry? If not, highly recommended.

No I haven't, it's a book I presume? I'll look on amazon

It depends on your approach - you have to be very careful not to make it about about your ds being the “naughty” one otherwise it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy which it might well have done.

I agree with siblings without rivalry. Make sure you listen to your ds and really try and understand where he is coming from without judgement.

Thank you, I've ordered the book.
I know what you mean about the self fulfilling prophecy I really do try hard not to make that the case, that she's the good one & he's the naughty one. We talk, I listen to him we spend time alone. It all goes out the window as soon as he's with his sister!