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Playdate? A single dad here...

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ZoomingOut2 · 16/01/2018 14:18

First, apologies if this is the wrong section.

Second, my daughter, 6, wants to invite one of her friends over. The problem though, I'm a man. Previously, a mum was uncomfortable leaving her daughter at our house. She only did that when my DD's grandma was here. I understand why it may seem a bit awkward...or do I?

Now, I want to invite the other girl over and not sure how to approach the mum without putting her in an uncomfortable position? She's got a partner, but he's hardly available.

Any suggestions?

Thanks!!

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Mookatron · 16/01/2018 14:19

Is it a different mum? Sorry, I'm not clear. If so just ask her. There's no reason she would say no. Maybe before it was because the kids were younger or something.

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Rollercoaster1920 · 16/01/2018 14:20

Invite the mum too. And the dad in case he thinks there are shenanigans. Probably best to also invite a chaperone and inform the police.

You are over thinking this. Kids with both parents also have play dates when just the dad is looking after them.

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SleightOfMind · 16/01/2018 14:22

Could you arrange their first get together somewhere like soft play or cinema instead of at home?
That way they can get to know you a bit before coming to yours.
Or invite mum and any siblings over for the first time too.

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ZoomingOut2 · 16/01/2018 14:23

@Mookatron Yes, a different mum.

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ZoomingOut2 · 16/01/2018 14:23

@SleightOfMind Inviting the mum or both parents is fine by me.

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OhNoGroken · 16/01/2018 14:25

Oh blimey, if a dad asked me this I wouldn’t think twice about it. Just ask.

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Mookatron · 16/01/2018 14:27

I can imagine it's a bit tricky, even though it shouldn't be. Just start with 'dd is nagging for a playdate' and make it clear it's about the kid not you.

I reckon it'll be fine.

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SleightOfMind · 16/01/2018 14:38

Fwiw, I wouldn’t mind my DD going to a friends’ house with Dad in charge but some people are very paranoid. I’m sorry you’ve been made to feel awkward about this. It’s very unfair.

Hope your DD manages to have fun with her friend.

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ginteresting · 16/01/2018 14:50

I wouldn't have a problem with this at all. The children are friends. An overly paranoid parent wouldn't put me off inviting others for play dates, or having a child for tea as they used to be called, they're a fun aspect of childhood. Invite them, and say 'youre welcome to stay for a cup of tea if you wish' if it would make them feel more comfortable. Presumably, you have met the parents of your kids class before at kids parties, school drop off, sports days etc.

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TheHobbitMum · 16/01/2018 14:58

It wouldn't worry me having a male only at a house for a playdate in fact DH does ours and all club/school runs for our kids & friends. DD has also gone to male single parents houses without issue, if your DD friends mum has an issue then invite her along but I wouldn't over think it too much :)

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PeaceLoveAndDixie · 16/01/2018 15:17

My dd has been going for play dates to a single dad’s house for years. Totally fine with it.

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Enirroc · 16/01/2018 15:20

It wouldn't occur to me to say no... But as a single mum, feel free to invite me too... 😉

Lol

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ZoomingOut2 · 16/01/2018 16:33

Thank you!!

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MIDEB · 16/01/2018 19:31

We are a married couple who have a 3 and a half year old son who is looking for a playmate in his local area Eggbuckland, plymouth and has no family or friends nearby. After bad experiences at nursery doesn't settle, looking for someone in a similar position who would meet at a soft play, park or home.

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ZoomingOut2 · 16/01/2018 20:23

Ah well, I asked. But apparently their kid is too busy at the moment. Spring time was suggested as an alternative. Not sure whether this is genuine or just a polite rejection.

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Enirroc · 16/01/2018 20:35

Aww... It could be either. But let us know where you are and we'll all offer instead! Lol

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ZoomingOut2 · 16/01/2018 20:39

@Enirroc Well...

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Enirroc · 23/01/2018 11:38

How're things going now @ZoomingOut2 ?

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ZoomingOut2 · 23/01/2018 12:30

@Enirroc

Nothing much changed really.

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Enirroc · 23/01/2018 13:19

Oh that's a shame

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