Can't get any successes with potty training...Help!

[MummyMills16]

So I've started potty training my DD, she is 21m and she'll be starting nursary in 3 months. DD has been showing signs for around 4 months. DD has a whole routine, sit on toilet adaptor or potty, wait, sing some songs ect, but she'll never tolerate sitting for too long and I don't want to stress her out so, I pass her the tissue, she cleans up throws it away and says bye bye wee. Then she goes to the sink washes her hands and drys all without help. My problem is WE'VE HAD NO SUCCESSES!! NOT 1!! DD doesn't understand that she needs to 1&2 in the potty! 15mins on potty; nothing. When she gets off the potty; 1or2 on the floor! I've never been fustrated or impatient, I've never made a big deal out of her accidents, she calls me when she's had an accident saying "oh no mummy oh no look wee wee". But i don't think she understands, she's never had a success for me to be able to reward her. What do i do?

I would wait, she’s obviously not ready, they need to be able to tell you that she needs to go! If she telling you as she weed that she’s going, she’s getting almost ready. It’s not just an age thing she needs to be physically ready

Does not sound like she is ready. It's seems very young. Is it only because she is starting nursery? Can't imagine they will expect her to be trained when starting.

I agree she’s not ready. She might say the right things but the understanding is not there. She’s very young.

I don't think she's ready. Give her a few months, she's still really little.

She’s not even 2!! Way too young to force it. Clearly not ready.

My 20 month old DD known that the potty is for wee and poo and she regularly makes her toys use the potty but she does not want to yet so we will wait until she wants to try it.

Nursery won’t expect her to be potty trained.

She does tell me when she needs to go but won't actually do it in the potty. I'll consider that she isn't ready but it's really hard to believe when she's showing so much. I honestly believe that she isn't too young @rumpledfaceskin and I'm definately not forcing it, I thought that was a little harsh, she's very excited to try. And i know nursary will help, I just figured we'd use it as a goal type thing. She also takes of her nappy all the time so am I wrong for keeping her in nappies when she doesn't want to be in them or wrong for trying to train her now? Couple more suggestions may help. Thank you everyone for your help

How long have you been training for? It sounds like it’s a game to her at the moment. What do you do/say when she wees on the floor?
I bribed mine. Do a wee or poo on the potty and get a chocolate button. Worked a treat.

It doesn't sound like she's ready so leave it for now. However, I would leave the potty around so she can use it if she wants to.

I thought she was going to be much older than that! Struggling with my 3.10 year old at the mo I would leave it.

@ladyvimes we've been at it for a week, when she 1or2's on the floor we just acknowledge it and say "oh no not on the floor" which with anything else she's very aware what that means. She's is defo not happy about doing it on the floor and I'm not sure she'd understand the bribe unless she does it on the potty then I reward her. I do think i'll stay at it because I'm very sure we'll have a breakthrough.

Thanks again for all the advice everyone.

Sorry op didn’t mean to sound harsh it’s just that from op there doesn’t seem to be much to indicate that dd has any idea when she needs to go or not. Toddlers will often start saying they need to when they actually don’t have a clue as they learn quickly that it’s a good way of getting mums/caregiver immediate attention. It was just cold hard advice from someone that’s recently been through the whole debacle and trust me you will make a rod for your own back by trying to persevere and stress about it before they are ready. There’s a big difference between you promoting them to go and them being able to truly tell you, and really I think that often comes later than people expect. My dd took to it really well, after 2 months went back to wee accidents all the time! Total regression and I’m yet to work it out. Generally fine with me in week but weekends when daddy’s home it’s a different story!

*meant to say prompting them to go

Not ready. She's not even 2 .... pack it away and try again in a few months.

When DS was ready it took 72hrs .... and literally 3 or 4 accidents

Good luck!

Oh and he was 3 Years and 3 Months

Tbh in my experience, early trainers often have a regression, that’s not to say they can’t do it, but sometimes leaving it a couple of months can make all the difference to success.
A trick you could use is to go shopping with her and allow her to choose her favourite knickers, she may have more incentive to keep dry, but this will only work if she’s ready.

Thanks alot peeps! @confusedhelpme I understand your DS may have been ready at 3years but every toddler is different, so I can see that you think you're sure but it'd be nice for you to consider that you might be wrong. I don't agree with everyone bringing up age, I was potty trained by 1 years old, my neices by 13-17months. DD is very forward and has always been. Like I said, i'll wait to see if she clicks after the first success and if not I'll consider that she's not ready and try again at a later time. @Bryna very helpful thank you. @rumpledfaceskin also very good advice. Thanks a bunch!