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user1479246102 · 15/01/2018 12:39

Bit of a background....I have 2 children 5 and 7 whos dad had an emotional affair and left a few years ago...we got a divorce and both been in new relationships for a while..me and my fiance have a 3 month old boy.
We are looking to move house soon as my ex is taking me to court to do so. Anyway..my fiance is in the army and has just been posted to a new barracks 2 hours away. My dilemma is should we all move together 2 hours away or should me and my 3 children stay around here??
If we move away my 2 primary aged children will need to change schools (which I was thinking about doing anyway as we have been having issues with that school) also moving them 2 hours away from their Dad, which he sees them every other weekend usually, but thats it...he doesnt see them during the week or any half terms.

If we stay here it means my fiance wouldnt get to come home much as he would be working sone weekends too meaning he wont get to be around our son in his first year and my other two children would miss him too.

Im going to speak to my 7 year old to see what her thoughts are on the situation but would like some of your thougts please too. If we were to move we would probably get married first so we could move into military accomodation and that will help us save for a better deposit for a house.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 15/01/2018 16:20

I haven’t got any experience of Divorce, so you might be better posting in that section, but I wouldn’t personally talk to the 7 year old until you’ve decided what you’re doing.

I don’t think moving 2 hours away is too much if he only sees them every other weekend. Have you got a Court hearing?

Figrollsnotfatrolls · 15/01/2018 16:22

Be aware if it's you that moves you will be expected to drop the dc +collect. Not so bad of its only eowe. Imo moving would give all your dc more stability than you staying behind for a week end df!!

user1479246102 · 15/01/2018 16:35

Thanks for your replies. Im going to decide and talk with fiance and once we have made a decision we will speak to our children.
I hace a court hearing in march as he wants me to sell our marital home...im planning on putting it on the market this month.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 15/01/2018 17:10

Sorry, thought you meant your ex was taking you to Court over moving away, not selling the home Smile

user1479246102 · 15/01/2018 20:26

No...i just think that once he learns im thinking of movi g 2 hours away he will do...to try and stop me.

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MumJ21 · 19/01/2018 19:58

We are also a military family - I would definitely say make the move 2 hours away. It sounds like your family would benefit from the move and it doesn’t stop your ex seeing your children.

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