Headbanging - illness or temper?

[MamaFlounce]

dt1 really doesn't seem to be himself at all atm. He has just started preschool which may be part of it, and is very clingy and is not going to bed at night. So he is overtired as well. He keeps headbanging when I say somethign he doesn't like or tell him off. I've tried ignoring it, but he is still carrying on, I don't know what to try next. We have wooden floors, so he must be gettign a sore head! I was wondering if maybe he was ill, but he has no other symptoms.

Whoops, forgot to change name back!

I think you should talk to nursery about it, and see if they have noticed any problems/any children picking on him and maybe ask if you can stay with him for an hour or so (bit like extended settling in) so you can see what's going on. I had quite bad experience with a nursery in that it had all the furniture, toys and trappings, but the staff were not trained properly and the kids were left to run about, were not focused, and I noticed in settling in time that the staff didn't comfort one little girl in particular. My boy hated it, and I was more worried than felt right (obviously it's going to be difficult). So I took him out and he improved and we are going to try somewhere new in sept when he is 3...

dd2 (almost 2) has just started this...and she bangs her head quite hard. I think it's frustration cause it happens when she doesn't get her own way and I guess she's not that articulate yet so it comes out this way. She doesn't go to nursery so I don't have the worry of her doing it with me not there...it IS distressing to watch though. I'm hoping she will grow out of it. I guess one way fwd I might try is to teach her to say she's angry, sad that she can't do x, so she verbalises her frustration instead.

sorry I didnt get back to this thread earlier, it dropped out of my recent messages. I have already sepnt some time at the preschool with him, and it seems ok, but I am a little worried that they aren't settling in. dt2 has started it now too, copying dt1. I'm jsut going to see how this week goes with the preschool, if not I might take them out again and look for somewhere different.