What was the harder transition - going from 0-1 children or 1-2 children?

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I'm 26 weeks pregnant with dc2. Ds1 will be 2 + 3 months when the baby is due.
Just wondering if you found it harder going from no kids to 1 or if you found going from 1-2 worse? !

0-1 was harder as you have no idea what a baby does. 1-2 just becomes an issue of crowd control

0-1. I was clueless. 2nd time wasn't a walk in the park, but I felt so much more confident.

Definitely 0-1 for me

0-1 was hideous and I hope I never feel like that again
1-2 was fine
2-3 was easy

Both difficult in different ways, but probably for me it was going from 1-2, I think this is due to the small-ish age gap though.

Obviously going from 0-1 everything changes and you have no idea what you're doing (well I didn't). Going from 1-2 I only had an 18 month age gap so my first was still very much a baby. Trying to breastfeed and look after a toddler is difficult. I'm only 6 months in though so I'm very much in the thick of it. My second baby was a dream and so much easier than my first too, I think it's just the demands on your time and looking after another person. I'm sure things would be so much easier if you went from 1-2 when the eldest had started school.

0-1 is a total life change.

1-2 is just a little bit more of what you've already been doing for the last 2/3 years.

0-1

DC1 was, and still is 14 years later, the difficult one

DC2 was a dream. Easy birth, good sleeper & feeder, much more malleable. 11 now, maybe will be a horror teen?!

Amazed I had a second after the first! So glad I did

1 to 2. I was euphoric going from 0 to 1, 1 to 2 I struggled but that could be my particular circumstances and a difficult baby.

0-1 much harder for the first year while on mat leave. 1-2 much harder once I went back to work, because I had two poor sleepers to contend with (and now one is at school and one at nursery so that's a logistical challenge).

0-1 was hell with a hypersensitive, reflux baby.1-2 was much better even with hyper nearly 3 year and limpet baby. I would’ve had another if DH had let me.

I wonder if it makes a difference if you have a massive age gap

1-2 definitely.
DD is 4.2 and DS is 15mo. Everything just feels really difficult and getting more difficult- getting two ready to go anywhere when neither want to cooperate, the constant fighting over toys and whinging... still the best thing we ever did having 2 though!! Wouldn't change it.

1-2 by far the hardest for me. 19 month gap and dc2 was very clingy and not a good sleeper. Dc 1, previously very chilled delight, struggled with the new arrival so all round it was quite an upheaval. Totally worth it though!

Definitely 1-2.

1-2.

DS was sleeping, 3 years old so more autonomous, out of nappies etc then DD was born and we were back to sleepless nights, nappies etc.

Plus, DD was a velcro baby who needed waaaay more attention than DS ever did. Still does actually.

0-1 was by far the hardest.

0 to 1 was the biggest shock. 2 to 3 was hard because DC3 was the worst sleeper (by a mile). 1 to 2 was a doddle.

1-2 much harder. All my friends warned me but somehow it still came as a surprise!

To be honest, 1-2 felt way harder for me! DS1 was a very placid baby, great feeder and sleeper, I wondered what all the fuss was about and smugly thought everyone exaggerated how hard parenting can be! I enjoyed the change in lifestyle if anything.

DS2 had reflux, screamed all the time, never slept, couldn't be put down. Poor DS1 didn't get much of a look in, poor boy and I felt constantly guilty. I was so dangerously exhausted I hallucinate and fell asleep standing up leaning on the reception desk in the school office once. He's a joyful, happy chap who sleeps now though, thank god.

1-2, only had a 16 month age gap though and DD2 was really quite poorly for a while so probably not a fair comparison.

0-1 was much harder. Total shock and such hard work. 1-2 was fine. Eldest was 2.4 years and could understand that sometimes she had to wait. The hard bit was that she decided to drop naps (at home, though not at nursery until she was 3. Grr) when ds was 6 weeks old and then she didn't want to wear nappies a further 2 weeks later, but at least ds was a chilled out baby and wasn't mobile so it worked out ok.

Definitely no 3rd baby though!

0-1 definitely
I’ve found 1-2 and 2-3 fairly easy

0-1 was hard for a short period. 1-2 was comparatively easy in the short term. However its hard long term.

0-1. The physical shock, hormones, sleep deprivation (DC1 still has sleep issues age 10!), loss of personal autonomy, energy and TIME! postnatal anxiety, relationship issues.

With 1-2 I expected all this! And my life was already screwed up! DC2 was an easier baby in most ways, thank goodness.

0-1 by miles. Having no.2 made me realise what a steep learning curve no. 1 was and how much we'd learnt along the way!