Teaching how to wipe...

[99redballoons]

My ds(3.10) will be starting school in Sept and I'm trying to teach him how to wipe himself after a poo (no problems using the loo, knowing when to use it etc, never 'holds' a poo). We have some kandoo wipes for him in a snazzy pot. He loves pulling them out but will NOT wipe his bottom. This mainly seems to be because he doesn't want to get poo on his fingers. I have showed him how to fold over the tissue after he's wiped once and to do it again, but he just doesn't like doing it. I have tried showing him to wipe from behind and also from underneath the front (hoping that might end up easier) but the poo just smears onto his bits (obv not good!) so now we're back to doing it from behind. He's finding it so difficult, bless him. I do try to stay calm with him and talk him through it. I don't want this escalate into a real issue. Help!

Any wise suggestions? TIA

There's also the problem of locating the right place from behind and to not 'flick' when he wipes iykwim!

No advice, I'm afraid. I am watching with interest. Ds doesn't seem to like wee or pooh, so I am not sure how I will manage this. Watching for tips.

How old is your ds Oblomov?

Hi 99rb My dd is also starting school in sep.I usually still wipe her bot at the moment, But have started to get her to do it first. I tell her to do a couple of wipes with loo roll then use a wipe afterward. that way you get the worst of first. Then I just check shes clean.

How are you by the way?

He is only 3.3 redballooons, but he WANTS to wipe his own bottom,. To date we have discouraged this, by saying nothing, just going and doing it.

We get a call " mummy, come wipe bottom" and off either dh or I go.
How old do they need to be, to do it themselves ?

my ds is 3.9 and he won't wipe his either.

I think there are going to be some skidded pants in september...

Hi cedar12 Didn't realise your dd was the same age (school year) as my ds He's only 4 in June so will be a young'un. Will come and chat on our other thread.

I think we'll try the tissue first for a change as I only let him use one wipe per flush and he doesn't like finishing off with toilet tissue (too rough).

I guess, oblomov, it's just practice, practice, practice. It's the placing of the tissue ds also finds hard.

Will check in again later.

So far going with the loo roll first, then a wet wipe at the end seems to make ds feel happier about it all. He's slowly gaining confidence. Dh is still doing it for him which I've got to stop, but all in all things are going ok.

Thanks for the help everyone