Attachment to one parent??

[GraceHelen]

I'm back for some more advice.

Can anyone tell me when it becomes 'expected' or that a baby will become very fussy about who (s)he has to settled them of an evening. Or even become more demanding of being with mum and not dad or grandparents etc? Also how long does it last roughly? Cos my dd has gone from being happy to be held and comforted and fed by basically anyone to now being a bit if a nightmare. She's at the point where she will scream her head off to point if making herself sick if it's not me giving her her evening feed and getting her settled for bed! Also now she is only happy to be with dh for a little bit before wanting to be bavk with me. All of this is new. And for dh of course it's very hard as he used to do a large number of bedtime feeding and settling.
Dd is 4 months old and ff.

It is normal for a baby to be attatched to only one parent from the very beginning.

In theory I know that but this is very new and gone from zero to ten in space of a few days it feels like. That's what feels odd to me. But as she is our only dc I have no real experience so always unsure.

4 months is a also a massive leap and sleep regression so she needs reassurance that only her primary carer can give. It will get better and worse over time.

As with everything with babies, it’s just a phase it will pass, albeit eventually! dd was around the same age when it started, hating strangers and everyone else basicsllyshe’s 14 months now and it’s getting much better, some strangers even get smiles and though she cries when I leave the room she’s fine within literal seconds as long as she’s familiar with who she’s left with. It passes! One day it’ll be the other way round and you’ll wonder why she doesn’t want you

My DD went through a stage at around 3-4 months where she wouldn’t be fed by OH and would settle with him. It was made harder by the fact that in the past he could do both while I got some rest.
We persevered with it and he would try then come and get me when needed. I think it lasted about 6 weeks as I know by 5-6 months she started letting him feed her again and settle her.

This started for us around 4 months and continued until about 3 years

Ds was totally fine with DH or other carers but DD was really attached to me. She went into childcare at 12 months and totally attached to one member of staff there to the same extent as she was attached to me at home.

She is now 4 and far more confident than Ds around strangers and is totally happy with other people but if she hurts herself or is ill, only mummy will do.

Hang in there but there is no knowing how long it will last!

Thanks all! X