DD is 2.4 and is lovely most of the time. But she is stubborn and has epic tantrums like all 2 year olds. She also hits a lot when tired or angry about something. I've tried all sorts to get her to stop. But nothing works (read all the internet it seems) she mostly just laughs in my face. She has been like it since she was about 18 months. I'm worried its not a phase as she has not grown out of it and I'm doing something horribly wrong. I don't know where she gets it from as we never use physical discipline
Anyway, now I'm 21 weeks pregnant and so tired and not coping with her behaviour. She has decided she no longer wants an afternoon nap, no matter how hard I persuade or how tired out she is. So she just gets more ratty and aggressive as the day goes on. Especially if I'm not giving her my absolute attention or giving her exactly what she wants, or stopping her doing something. Obviously the first two are not possible all the time. I.e. I have to make dinner, have a task or she wants something she is not allowed. And she regularly tries to do things she shouldn't (throw, damage stuff). Again standard Toddler stuff. But it's the not responding to any thing I try to ease the aggressive behaviour that is getting at me. We are never in all day as I try to get her out and keep her busy. But I can't spend my whole life out of the house.
Her behavior is really starting to get to me (hormones, tiredness and feeling like a failure is taking its toll). My patience is so thin and I can lose it at her (shouting) which gets me no where, obviously. I hate the mother I am turning into. I just feel like I can't cope and have no idea what to try next. I thought I was doing an ok job until recently where I now think I must be rubbish.
How do I stop her hitting me or throwing things at me when she is not getting her own way? How do I cope with my tiredness when she won't nap? The days just feel so long now even if we are out from 10am until 2pm (like today).
I love my DD but I feel like I don't like her very much right now and that makes me feel like the worst mother in the world. How will I manage with two?