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buffysummers4 · 08/01/2018 10:11

I know lots of people have more serious problems but....
I am feeling completely drained from spending hours every evening battling to get 5 month old to bed. He won't take a dummy (I've tried) so I either breastfeed to sleep or sometimes can rock him to sleep but it takes a lot of attempts to get him into his cot asleep. He's not had a bottle so doubt he'd take one now. I am going to try him with formula in a sippy cup.
He's really heavy now so if I rock him for long I get backache and also I think he's teething and is using me as a teether/dummy long after his actual feed so he's making me sore if I keep reattaching him to feed him to sleep.

I've tried the 'Pantley pull off' which seemed to be working for a bit but now he just seems to be really wary of me trying to detach him and so wakes up the minute I try to loosen him unless he's completely fast asleep.
I also have a nearly 4 year old whose behaviour can be challenging so after a whole day of managing him I really really do not have the energy for a long battle with the baby at bedtime.
They're both quite good sleepers overall but I normally get woken up by one or both of them at night.
This weekend was particularly rubbish because I had a horrible cold and so really needed my sleep/rest. I did get a sort of 'lie in' on Saturday in that I went back to bed after the first feed but that still meant feeding baby at 6am then again at 8am.
After 5 months I really need some me time (which would help me deal with 4 year old strops etc more calmly) but can't see how to achieve it until baby goes to sleep more easily/predictably.

There's a limit to how much husband can help because of the breastfeeding.
Argh....
On the positive side preschool is back this week so hopefully I will feel a bit saner by the end of the week - the Christmas holidays just seemed to go on forever...

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eted · 08/01/2018 12:36

yup been through that, its a pain for sure. I found teething to be the culprit. Just gave mine a teething glove that i bought which seemed to work and relieve her pain. Just give him something similar and I think it will help. Let me know if it helps!

buffysummers4 · 08/01/2018 12:42

Thank you, it's good to know it's not just me! I have ordered a razberry teether so will see if that helps at all... If not will look into the glove, thank you.

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arbrighton · 08/01/2018 17:03

too early to sleep train, even gently

Dummies are just boob substitutes

Formula may or may not help, certainly made no difference here

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buffysummers4 · 09/01/2018 10:09

Thank you - I know you're not supposed to do controlled crying or anything until 6 months. I have no objection to feeding to sleep, I just feel like it's not really working anymore as once he's asleep I'm disturbing him when I try to put him down in the cot and then he wakes up and we go round and round in circles. So I feel like we need to do something different but I'm just not sure what!

I was certainly hoping the dummy would be a boob substitute and would give him something to suck to keep him asleep while I transfer him to the cot but apparently baby doesn't feel they're an adequate substitute!
I wasn't so much thinking that formula would help the sleeping, more that husband could help now and again to give me a sanity break.

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MummyToLeo14817 · 09/01/2018 11:21

My baby is 5 months old too and is ebf , normally feeds to sleep or needs to be rocked or walked round and round and round the room for ages to get him to sleep. He used to just stay asleep unless waking for a feed until the last few weeks when he’s been waking really unsettled not wanting a feed and last night I realised it must be his teeth, I rubbed his gums and he was instantly soothed, so gave some calpol and by the 20 mins it would have taken to kick in he was settled and slept much better than any night for the last few weeks, I feel like a new woman!

So yeah maybe try some teething stuff ? Xx

arbrighton · 09/01/2018 13:36

Couldn't actually get mine to take enough from a bottle, if any, for it to give me a break anyway since 12 weeks...

eted · 09/01/2018 14:23

No problem and I got mine from Amazon (ill find the link and share it with you) and good luck, it will work out fine I'm sure!

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