Leaving baby for the first time when in labour

[Candyfloss1122]

So I am due my second baby at the beginning of April, and DD will be 14 months at the time.

I had planned a home birth, however for various reasons we have now decided against this and will be going to our mlu. It has made me anxious about leaving DD. I have never spent the night away from her, or really ever left her apart from with dh a handful of times.

She will.more than likely be left with a mum friend, as these are the people who see her frequently and who she knows best. This will mean she may spend the night there.

I suppose what I am.looking for is some reassurance that she will be ok. I just don't like leaving her at all.

She will be absolutely fine and expect to be shocked she looks like a massive toddler after you have the baby.

This was me when my youngest was born. I'd never left my eldest; never overnight and her dad had really only put her to bed a few times. I was more worried about leaving her than actually giving birth again.

We lived overseas and my wonderful mum flew over for a month to help.

My eldest was fine. 100% fine. Yours will to be too.

Best of luck with the new baby 😊

Oh yes!! Tiny toddlers look huge compared to new babies!

I felt exactly the same. My dp's came to stay with us for a couple of weeks as they live abroad. It meant DD aged 2 would be able to stay at home. I wasn't concerned at all about giving birth just how quickly I could get home again. She had never been away from me overnight and only put to bed by dp's a couple of times before. We also bedshare so she would have immediately been aware I wasn't there.

As it turned out I ended up with an emergency section that meant I was away for 2 nights. Managed to get them to count the night I gave birth as one of the compulsory 2 night stay.

DH was able to get back to her at 6am the first night so she woke up with him there. And he was home to put her to bed the second night. She was fine. And would have been fine even if DH couldn't have been there. It's surprising how much they can understand.

Don't worry. We can't plan these things no matter how much you want to. If you need to spend a night away then just enjoy the time with your new dc.

And yes she also seems huge. Changing her nappy, holding her hand, her feet. It's important to remember that she's still the baby you left. It's very emotional.

This is really reassuring to read I am in the same situation! I am due my 2nd mid March and my DD will be 2 at end of March. I have never really left her before and it scares me I am a stay at home Mum and she's with me all the time she sees my sister every week but my parents live abroad so don't know if my mum will be able to come back to look after her, I am already thinking about writing full on lists of her daily routines and so worried about leaving her and with who!? I have done some practice last time we went to stay with my parents letting them put her to bed and my sister has looked after her more recently for me to like go to midwife apt's but I do feel really nervous about it! Just want to get in and out as quickly as possible!