Hello Ladies,
I am really looking for some advice and support if I may please.
My ex and I split up about 6 years ago, divorced for about 18 months.
We have two children 12 and 8. I am working hard , having my own business - on the other hand he is in and out of work as his hobby is his priority.
He has set a fire to my house 3 years ago on New Year Eve whilst babysitting the children when I went to work (by accident). You can just imagine what my children and I have been thought thanks to this - lived in a temporary accommodation for 18 months. Had to threaten my own insurance company to court to get the money - doing all this mainly on my own. I should have also mention that I have no family. It is just me. He on other hand has very wealthy parents - I have received no calls, no support nothing from his side of family during this time.
Furthermore, he has put our children in danger many times, not fully understanding you can't drive a car with heavy objects loosely in the car whilst the children are in ...
I have tried to deal with all of this. My problem is that he has a close male friend who comes in and out of his life. They are not gays, as far as I know. This person is very negative about me and calls me names in front of my children. He even wished me dead and called me fat and ugly. The children are getting a little upset, including having this guys girlfriends telling my kids off. My ex is clearly spending far too much time with this guy even when I asked him not to. He was even hiding from me when I dropped kids off to my ex ...
The situation calmed down whilst he had a reasonable girlfriend for a few month. She has now left him and he is around my ex and my children every time they are there. Swearing, calling me by names ... My ex keeps saying he will stop seeing him yet, judging from previous experience, I don't feel I can trust him ... This guys is also facing prison for some doggy business deals.
What can I do when my ex is not taking him seriously? I am working very hard to keep my children sane and for them to see their father and have a meaningful relationship with him. Somehow this guys means more to him than the wellbeing of my children. Can I stop him from seeing the kids? I know my kids will be devastating but it's also incredibly damaging for them to be in an environment like this ...
My ex is obsessed about that I do and who I see - he clearly still has feeling for me. Which is mad, considering how long we have been apart. I have been single for majority of the time - have a male friend and my ex is and went mad about it. Now starting to see someone more seriously and I worry that I am too damaged to start a new life ...
Sorry for the long post but please help ! I so worry about my kids, the mental damage they may suffer and should I just simply stay single forever? :)