2.5 year old jealous of new baby

[flowerygirl]

My third baby was born 3 months ago and my 2.5 year old is still struggling with it. He will not engage with the baby in any way. To start with he would jump on my back whilst I changed his brother's nappy and climb all over me whilst nursing. This has stopped now but he has instead completely withdrawn himself instead. He used to be so excitable, cuddly and happy and honestly he now just looked depressed. It's really breaking my heart.

My daughter wasn't jealous at all when he was born so this is new to me. I'm trying to do his bedtime routine as much as I'm taking them out to playgroups each day but I'm finding it so hard. He is reluctant to even give me any eye contact as well.

Has anyone got any tips? When did it get easier? I'm feeling such a crap mum

You’re not, I’m sure.
I have a 2 year old and a new baby. My toddler and I used to spend a lot of time together, I took him to classes etc and now that’s difficult though I still try when I can. He’s all about daddy and rejects me constantly and it’s absolutely heartbreaking. Try and do one fun thing with him a day, even if it’s story time. When you breastfeed, give him a special sack of toys he can play with whilst you do so and put them away when you’re not feeding.
Good luck, I’m sure you’re doing great. The connection will come back, that’s what I believe. It’s just a phase and he loves you to bits xx