Rant about PDA

[notanaturalmum]

I'm sorry but I can't take any more of the 2017 was so fantastic because we had our baby and it completed our life and it's so amazing.
I had a baby and I feel the total opposite. He's relatively well behaved but he has crying fits, he's up in the night and it's draining. I don't feel like I can celebrate him because he's made my life more difficult.
And then I have friends on Facebook saying how blessed they are but those same friends are whatsapping me saying how hard it is and how they are struggling etc.

There's no point to this thread really but I'm just angry with people that pretend that everything is alright on Facebook.

Why can't people be honest about how awful mum life is in the early months.

I'm sure it gets better. I'm hoping it gets better. Please tell me it gets better.

It's possible to be both blessed and struggling. You know people only put the best on Facebook. YANBU to be frustrated but YABU to expect everything about having a baby will be lovely. Of course it's hard work & of course it gets easier.

Fb is the devil.....I choose to turn a blind eye at times or just come off it.
Op I feel very similarly to you. I have a one year old and although it's better than it was I have really hated this year and kick myself regularly for being a parent when I didn't really want to in the first place
BUT I am a parent and I've got to get through it so I just get on with it. People say it does get better so I guess we have to put our faith in them and hope it does! Stick in, do what you've got to do to get through it x take care x

It gets better. It really does get better.

Some babies, much as we love them, are such hard work.
Good news;in the first year, they change so fast, they are like a different kind of child in a few weeks or a month or two.And they do more, and get entertained more by toys and activities.

One suggestion: those odd moments where it's not appallingly hard work, and you feel overwhelmed with love for them, grab a picture. Print it out, & stick these pictures on the cupboard,wall, fridge, etc. To remind you/ balance your emotions.

Small confession: one of mine, first four months, in every single one of these loved up pictures, he would have been asleep.

It gets better OP! Soooo much better.

It's a real life changer when the start sleeping through the night. It will happen!

@help1978 I am in the same situation as you.
I thought I would be able to handle it but it's a lot tougher than I thought. I'm envious of those who were desperate for kids as I reckon they are happy to put up with all the difficulties that babies bring.
I hope that I grow to enjoy him. My husband dotes on him and that really helps.

My oh is amazing too . Couldn't and wouldn't do it without him.
I see my gp regularly and a counsellor which helps a bit but inside I'm screaming to go back to my old life.
I feel if I can just keep going until he's more of a person and not a baby I think that's when I won't dread it so much x
Does your husband/gp know how you feel?

@help1978
Again that's exactly how I feel. If I can just make it till I go back to work then it will be okay.
I'm not one for babies but I'm sure I'll be better when he grows up.
My husband is aware and very supportive..
I don't think I'm at the gp stage but open to counselling I think.
I accept the choices I've made. I think I'm a little sad that I can't get past the struggles sometimes and celebrate the fact that we've had a child.
Maybe that's what angers me more about FB posts - i.e. Others can still appear to be happy.

A lot of people lie on fb/whatsapp.....they can be complete bullshit, as you know first hand from folk on whatsapp group! I just try to laugh it off
You will get through this and you will be ok. Loads of women say that as soon as they got back to work things were so much easier....you can pee by yourself....eat lunch.....not have constant whining to listen to and your brain will be used in a different way!
Hang in there x

As PP have said, it’s completely possible to both really struggle at times and to feel very happy that you have a baby.

You do sound very down though. I would definitely go to your GP.

Delete fb !!