Worried my 2nd DD won't look like me

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I'm 36 pregnant with my 2nd daughter but worried that she will look nothing like me. I have a beautiful first daughter who is 18 months and my husband's twin. I know this sounds pathetic but I have struggled with comments from people who say she looks nothing like me. It really hurts and I'm not really sure why. I'm bracing myself for this to happen all over again.

Any advice on how I can stop being so silly??

Someone once remarked to me that eldest children looked like their fathers in order that the father bonds and adapts to father hood. So if this us an evolutionary strategy, it's on your side!
But op can I very gently say that it really doesn't matter.

As others have said:

Children change as they get older

And you may think a child doesn't look like you but other people can see it more than you

It hurts because you feel like you've done all the hard work with no return. But the sooner you realise (and I say this very kindly) that children aren't there to serve your ego - we all have one - the happier you'll be.

‘ON CHILDREN’ BY KHALIL GIBRAN
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

I have dark brown hair. My dd was born pure blonde ansstayed that way until 5 when she turned dark brown. Dc change. I can have people tell dd in the space of an hour that she is the spitting image of me and that she is so her dad..she is early 20s.
Do not give this another thought. My dc constantly surprised me over the years when l realised they were like me in certain things. Thats fun but not essiential. And some things are best not carried into the next generation.
My dd has a big freckle on her arm in the exact same place as me. Its weird but nice.

My DS looks nothing like me or my DH! He is the spit of my dad and brother (who look very alike).

I'm interested to see if the next baby looks like me or DH. If it does it will look nothing like its brother.

Genetics!

My first is the double of his dad and my second looks a lot more like me. As daft as it sounds, I really hoped he would (despite the fact that my mini DH is absolutely adorable) because with them both being boys I wanted to feel a bit more included, especially as they get older and Mummy isn't he centre of their world anymore

My dc don't look like me. Two are the image of their dad, one is...a mystery.

In personality, though, one is the spit of their dad, two are the spit of me!

They're all three my darlings, I love them, they love me, and looks don't come into it,

It's a bit like worrying that you won't love dc2 as much as you love dc1. Don't worry. Ain't gonna happen

@notagainyoda Thanks for posting the poem above, really reasonates.

Yoda, have always loved that poem, but particularly resonates in this context.