Shall we let our 16 yr old DD stay overnight NYE?

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Daughter - 16 going to friend's NYE party tmrw. Loves socialising with friends and is generally reliable and trustworthy. She wants to stay over - we have said we will pick her up at 1am. Last time she stayed after a party at this house, ended up sleeping in the shed (summer house style), on a damp , cold duvet.
Would you let your 16 DD stay? Advice please.

Well I'm letting my reliable, trustworthy son stay at a 'girl'friends house tomorrow night if that helps.. but really, only you can answer the question

He's also 16, yr 12

I would let her. My ds is 16 and is also reliable and trustworthy, he is at an NYE party tomorrow and coming home due to logistics but I would have let him stay.

Its a tough one, I have a 16 DS very responsible and trust worthy. He asked to go to a house party in the summer which was quite far away from our house. Everyone was staying over. My initial reaction was that I would pick him up around 1am, but then after speaking to friends they suggested I was being over protective. I felt guilty that I was ruining his fun and in the end let him stay over. I did worry all night though.

Everything was fine and he had a great night. I requested the hosting parents phone number and the full address.

Let her stay over.

Our 17 year old son will be staying at a friend's house after a party on NYE. The house he is staying at is a different one to the party but both a short distance away.

I'm happy for him to stay out and be with friends. He knows he can call me if there are any problems and I'll be with him in 10 minutes.

He's not had any sort of curfew since he was 16 though. He often comes home very late. The deal is that he must let us know where he is and when we can expect him back and that's it. He keeps in touch when he's out so I don't worry.

He doesn't go out on school nights and hasn't caused us any worry so far. He makes good choices and knows we are only a phone call away if he makes a bad one.

I've asked that he makes sure he is home by midday New years day so we can all have dinner together.

At some point you have to say yes.
DD17 went to a festival with friends in the summer when she was still 16. Since then she often sleeps over at parties.
We didn't sleep a wink, she had a ball. Just like I did when I went abroad with friends at that age.

I went to glastonbury aged 16 in a pre mobile phone era...was gone four days and took my 14 yr old sister with me!

If she is generally reliable and trustworthy, then yes I would let her. It won't be long until you have no say in these things, and for me it's better that it's a gradual process. It also strengthens your relationship by demonstrating you trust her, so if anything does go wrong she doesn't feel she can't call you because you 'told her so'.

If you're worried about her sleeping on a damp duvet, and that's the bit of your post I'd struggle with most, send her with an air bed and a sleeping bag.

Thanks everyone. Have given her the option of staying over if she wants to. Happy girl here........even with prospect of damp duvet 😕. Character building I guess!
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Yes, definitely. To be fair, I used to sleep over at my boyfriend's house when I was 15. We really didn't get up to much. I didn't have sex til I was 18 by my own decision. Barely drank, have never done drugs. I was responsible and trustworthy and just not an idiot. I think certainly it's safer probably that being on the road driving around that late.

Good decision.

My ds used to sleep over at parties at that age - we live rurally and its common practice for that age group round here to save parents having to go out in the small hours to get them as no other transport options.

My ds turned 16 at the very end of Y11. Half his year group went off to the Reading Festival that summer and they all had a great time.

DD 16, is going to a party. I told her to arrange it as a sleepover as I do not want to wait up till 1am and not have drink. She was given the option of a cab, but she preferred the sleepover option.