3 year old DD soiling herself- please help

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DD is 3 years old and has been potty trained since the summer. She took to it fairly well but has gotten worse in recent months at poo. She will hide herself away and will soil herself in secret or will deny that she needs to go and will fight if we sit her on the potty or toilet. She prefers to soil herself and will do this 2/3 times a day either at home or nursery.

When I ask her about where the poo needs to go, she will say 'the potty' or 'toilet' and doesn't seem bothered by having soiled herself, if i don't notice she will just walk around with it. If i ask her why she has done it she speaks gobbledegook or she will look away from me and will avoid eye contact or will change the subject.

She's not easily motivated with toys or bribery, she just doesn't care. She will be bribed with biscuits but this isn't good for her. She's not fussed with stickers or toys or toys being taken away.

Im really stuck as to what to do!

We've been going through the exact same with DD. Apparently it's not that uncommon.

Has she had any changes in her diet lately? Could she be constipated?

She’s almost certainly constipated. Maybe see the GP?

Sticker chart with a wrapped present reward after 10, worked for my toilet refuser. He loved choosing a sticker and counting down. The mystery present was a toy car or kinder egg. The mystery lured him in.
Good luck.

My son went through a stage like this, no help at all sorry he just stopped after a few months, it was infuriating he would just smirk at me and say he would use the potty next time.

We just ignored it completely, cleaned him up and changed him without a word, but we made a huge fuss of potty use even just for wees to make it more appealing, stickers and chocolate buttons and high fives

We are also going through this with our DS3 he keeps pooing himself and acts like it’s no big deal. We have tried reward and punishments but nothing works. Placing marking to see suggestions.

Going through this with dd4 at the moment, she has been soiling herself for about 6 weeks now and can be up 15 times a day. Taken her backwards and forwards to the doctor who have diagnosed chronic constipation which is now under investigation, definitely worth a visit to the GP op

I think i might take her to the GP.

She was constipated a couple of weeks ago and didn't have a poo for a day or so.
I think in the meantime I might have to up the fruit and veg intake.

Dd went through something similar. Getting her more involved in the clean up helped. Getting undressed, fetching clean clothes and putting dirty in washing machine and washing hands after. Obv I intervened for the really pooey bits

I read something recently about how if you (unintentionally!) potty train before a child is ready all you’re really training them to do is to hold it. Small children don’t want to be interrupted in their play and toilet is an interruption so they learn to ignore the urge to go. You can then end up with constipation that goes unnoticed because they have ‘overspill’, often loose, bowel movements. I believe the solution offered was to revert to nappies and then try again in a while. Will try and find a link...

m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1424826

I don't think this is the same as your situation but I'll mention it in case. After my eldest was potty trained he would often soil himself and we worked out it was when he rated dried apricots! They basically made his poo come out in too much of a rush. As soon as I stopped him eating them he was fine. Hope you find the answer OP!