Any advice please - I don't know what to do about DS 10 behaviour

[Honey1975]

I am finding Christmas stressful & not very enjoyable which is making me feel quite down.

DS is 10 and has always been quite a challenging boy but his behaviour over christmas has really upset me. He is rude, disrespectful & disobedient. His attitude comes across as angry and aggressive although he is not physically aggressive. He is quite immature still and can be very silly particularly around other people. Yesterday we were with family and he was very silly which I accept was probably down to excitement but it verges on rudeness and when we try to tell him to calm down he just ignores us. He was rude to me several times in front of my family and his only thought was where his next present was coming from. There were some awkward moments when I could see people were not impressed with his behaviour which upset me as I want to bring him up to be a nice person.

I feel embarrassed and blame myself and dh as we must have gone wrong somehow bringing him up. Our dd however is the complete opposite im personality, easygoing, kind and thoughtful.

My ds has a better relationship with
DH as he is slightly more patient than me. I can just feel my relationship with ds getting worse & worse and I just don't know what to do. I have been in tears twice the past 2 days and feel like I can't take any more of this.

Is it too late to sort this out and if not please please can anyone help suggest what we should do. This is a not a very happy house right now and frankly I'm feeling really low.

Christmas is difficult, expectations are so high, people sometimes get a bit judgemental, everyone is out of their routines and children are tired, over excited and often showing off.
Take a deep breath, leave your dcs with your dh and go for a swim or a run or whatever you do to relax.
It sounds like ds is testing boundaries and while it's infuriating and embarrassing (I have a 9yo) the best response is calm consistent rules. Don't let him see he has got to you. Which is easier said than done, I know.

Hi OP. My 9 year old is awful round Christmas and his birthday. Demanding and grabby. Any money he had been given burns a hole in his pocket. Drives me mad. The best thing for him is to go on walks, the beach, park where there are no gifts and no shops! We've had an argument today as he wanted to spend a voucher NOW. I was firm and said no, we are going to town tomorrow and let him sulk.
I don't think it's helped that they only finished term on Friday and they are exhausted. Came back from their dad's midday Xmas day and he literally ripped through his presents like he was on a timer. Arghhh! He is lovely most of the time otherwise so I have held of rehoming he for now

I took part in a therapy called MST (multi systemic therapy) it's quite brutal but the underlying message is that for any bad behaviour , there is a consequence and you stick to this. It really works, it's difficult at first but once you get into it things become easier.