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I don’t know what to do...

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DLB18 · 26/12/2017 15:22

I’m really struggling about whether I am being abused or just being a mug...

My partner and I have been together for just over two years and have a four month old son together. He has always had a short and hot headed temper but I’ve always ignored it, however recently it has got worse, much worse... he even got angry at a traffic light the other day!! I feel like I’m constantly treading on egg shells and I dread his days off from work. My family have started only visiting when he is at work and my friends won’t even visit at all as he makes them feel so unwelcome/uncomfortable.

He gets so angry at the littlest thing and doesn’t seem to care if it upsets me - he totally spoilt his daughters first Christmas as my brothers dog dared to bark at his dog!! Now my family are being awkward towards me.

He puts the dog before me and my daughter... he allows it on the sofa etc when he knows daughter has an allergy of it and means I will have to clean everything in a room before the baby can come in - now we just spend most of our time in the bedroom away from him which doesn’t seem to bother him!!

He constantly makes raciest remarks towards other people as he knows it upsets me.

He rarely helps out with housework and never does anything for baby!!

I scared of him but I’m more scared that if I leave him he will take our daughter away from me... his family live far away and have a lot more money for solicitors etc than my family - even if I can offer the more stable and loving environment by far!!

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Rubyslippers7780 · 26/12/2017 15:25

He sounds awful. Does he do anything which enriches your life?
You need away from this man. He is horrible.
Why are you accepting you and your child sit in a bedroom?? The dog is higher on his list than you and your child.

NapQueen · 26/12/2017 15:25

Yes you and your dd are being abused. Who owns the house? Can you take dd to your families for a few days to make a long term plan?

user1493413286 · 26/12/2017 20:53

This sounds really difficult and both you and your son deserve better; I think you’d get a lot more helpful responses if you posted on the Relationships board.
Have you spoken to your family about this? I would and I would ask them for help.
It’s so unlikely that he would be able to get full care of your son even with solicitors.

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Tinselistacky · 26/12/2017 20:54

Is he on the birth certificate? Who's name is the property in?

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